A friend of mine met her boyfriend of several months via Match.com and their relationship is great. Another friend dated a couple different guys via Match.com and both highly recommended it to me.
So anyway, I've signed up and it seems like many of the guys want to meet me in person right away. My intuition tells me to do some online chatting/e-mail exchanging first.
What do you think is good online dating protocol?
Tips and tricks for a newbie to the whole thing?
By the way, I broke up with my first love 8 months ago and I'm just now trying to get back in the game. It seems like online dating would be a great way to meet people I wouldn't normally meet.
2007-03-12 05:50:17 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow...People have had some scary experiences. Yikes!
But it seems to me that that's just as likely to happen if you meet somebody at, say, a bar or a night club. It seems like if you don't give away personal details and use common sense (i.e. meet in public, don't tell them where you live, etc) it would be ok...
2007-03-12 06:45:47 · update #1
I met my husband through yahoo personals. And the hoopla about people saying online dating is not safe, unless you are dating a bunch of guy friends all the men you have dated at one point were strangers to you. You have to use common sense when dating period, wether it's online or otherwise.
Anyways, ofcourse they want to meet right away. They want to date. You can't get to know someone over the phone or chatting. But that is the first step. Give it around a week and decide if you feel comfortable enough to meet the guy. If you are having doubts by all means don't go. Trust your gut instinct. Meet in a public place and arrive in seperate cars. Meet at the mall for coffee or something. Goodluck.
2007-03-12 05:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have met several people on Match.com. The ones who want to meet right away just want sex. The ones who ask to meet in a public place are generally okay, and open to the suggestion of more talk first. The best ones are the ones who just want to talk at first, and reveal information over time, with your first date taking place a few weeks after that first wink or e-mail.
Something you might notice in most of the profiles is that they are "not into the club scene anymore." Basically, this means all the sharks you used to meet at the clubs are now on Match.com. Be VERY wary of that website. You can meet some good people there, but the number of good guys looking for a good girl online are about the same as the number of good guys looking for good girls at your local bar.
2007-03-12 13:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ann M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when the concept first appeared, it seemed unsafe & odd to many people, but times have changed. Check the statistics, I even heard Dr. Phil (not that I'm a big fan of his, but the man has the facts) say that online dating has become as safe, if not safer, than many of the usual ways to meet the opposite sex. I have met several good & interesting men online, and am currently building a relationship with one. The key is to take your time (like months), get to know each other VERY well through online conversation before any meeting takes place, and when you do meet, follow all the rules for safety...public place, short visit, etc. Keep your wits about you, watch for red flags, use common sense...good luck!
2007-03-13 19:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've actually gone through the online dating. The best pieces of advice to give you are: A lot of times they may not be telling you the truth about their background, education etc...the other thing is; NEVER meet someone alone. If they are THAT anxious to meet you right away, that's not a good sign. That tells you they're desperate and will "take anything". I've had two dates go wrong; one; lied about what he looked like and the other one lied about his looks AND his background. The first one after I saw him from a distance, I left because he wasn't not the same person in height/weight appearance. Neither was the other. JUST BECAREFUL WITH WHOM YOU TALK WITH AND WHERE TO MEET. Don't let them know at all where you live or #s etc...
2007-03-12 12:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Online Dating can be a good and bad experience depending upon the person's perspective.
I got into online dating a few months ago... I think it's a great way to meet people. My only concern is sometimes you really have to be selective who you talk to and not everyone is gonna be totally honest what they say in their profile. And also, it gets discouraging sometimes when the internet dating is a superficial place where people are just biased or judgemental.
I would say trust your instincts and I think it's a good idea to establish a connection first where you can email the others before meeting them or giving out your phone number.
2007-03-12 12:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good online protocol is
(1) Exchange mails, messages, chatting and all the communications on the online dating site alone initially, till you guys get to know better. This is important because the conversations done outside online dating site are at your responsibility. Don’t give mail ids and phone # initially.
(2) Once initial screening is done and u decided upon the guy communicate with him more to get to know better. As U developed confidence U guys can exchange mails outside the dating site.
(3) Give phone # only when you feel confidence.
Hope this helps
2007-03-12 17:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jenni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that many men(including married ones) use the on line dating services to find women to use. It is like an all you can eat buffet. Be very cautious in meeting them in person until you email or even talk on the phone to them. It's hard to tell a good one from a bad one and married vs. single. A guy I worked with(not friends with) used the on line service to line up dates for sexual gratification. He was involved with 3 different ones and was using them by making them believe he was seeing only each one of them. He did eventually get caught by two of them in lies, but the third one still doesn't know. There are good and decent men using the services so don't condemn the service. Just use your common sense and don't take the men you meet through it at face value. Get to know them quite awhile before you decide to get involved intimately. You could get heartbroke pretty easily by trusting too quick. Good Luck.
2007-03-12 13:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in it BUT if you must. Let the first date be a group setting. Tell him to bring a friend or two and you do the same. Meet at a public place with lots of people during the day time. Be very careful and make sure that someone else knows exactly where you are going to be and who you are going to be with.
2007-03-12 12:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online dating is not a bad thing if you know what to look out for and stay clear of the bad mishaps that could come up, other wise it is a great way to meet friends and even find that special someone, although it does not work for everyone, just be careful.
2007-03-12 13:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
myself after I was married for 10 years it ended . I wasn't looking for anyone special but found him on-line. On-line dating is fun and a great way to become friends first.If you are doing this on the rebound be cautious,because you could get hurt again. Many people find their idea mates on line and they usually last . do not met right away.correspond via email, phone and just chatting on line. if you have a good friendship then proceed but never jump right in with both feet.
2007-03-12 13:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by lilmystic63 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋