ok so me and my bf tried having sex and wen he put it in, it just hurt so much that i had to tell him to stop. So is there any way that it can be less painful and make things easier next time?
2007-03-12 05:49:12 · 27 answers · asked by jEsSnIcKeR`S ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this was my first time btw
2007-03-12 05:56:47 · update #1
it gets easier over time...
2007-03-12 05:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by coconuts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are really young like a teenager that explains a lot. I would suggest you go to a doctor cause sometimes painfull sex may indicate an infection of some kind or an STD. It can also mean other things too like you aren't really all that ready like you think. Just remember our bodies don't lie and sometimes they have a will of their own telling us something that we are trying not to heed.
2007-03-12 12:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts the first time. You can use more lube, but you'll probably just have to suck it up and get over it. Or stop trying to have sex at such a young age.
2007-03-12 12:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend a LOT more time on foreplay --- and be gentle ---- if it is still painful you may need to see a doctor to make sure there are no physical problems --- it may be painful for the first or second time BUT it should not be that painful and should be a pleasurable experience
2007-03-12 13:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be suffering from vaginal dryness. try a lubricant like K-Y Jelly or something, or baby oil, and tell him to be gentle-at least at first. But then again, it could be a more serious problem, so you may want to see a doctor. However, everytime I have sex, it hurts at first, but then once he gets his penis in there, it doesn't feel so bad, in fact it feels pretty good.
2007-03-12 12:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by Infinite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either needs to get you more arosed and naturally lubricated or you need to buy some lube to use during sex. Maybe he is just being too rough with you.
2007-03-12 12:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is regular size and after forplay let's say your wet that's what i mean, because if he's one of those idiots that thinks sex is just taking off his pants and sticking it to you no wonder you don't like it. now if you think you don't lubricate enough they sell lubrication at the store. I new a woman who hated intercourse with her boyfriend she said his penis was to big for her. every time they were together it hurt and she found no joy in being with him.
2007-03-12 12:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by BarbaraJean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously from other answers lubrication is necessary. You may want to consider a position that allows you to control how deep you are penetrated - such as you on top.
2007-03-12 12:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fore play, it can be anything but it must be a lot of touching, It would help if you love the guy. If you dont really love or disire the person, he is not going to arrouse you. Fore play wont mean nothing to your body. its a natural thing to cuz the vigina to open up.
2007-03-12 12:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Seeker of Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lubrication such as KY gel or have him go down on your first and get you wet first. Also you might still be small so have him finger you to loosen you up. Also time.
2007-03-12 12:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by TheLight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should not be painful. Is this a change, or has it always been this way for you? Either way, see your gynecologist! But if things have recently changed, it's urgent that you see your gynecologist.
2007-03-12 12:52:46 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋