My fiancee wants to invite a mutual friend of ours to our wedding, when i was in high school i had a huge crush on this friend of ours and this friend new of my feelings, but i know im over him now, but should i invite him to our wedding when we have had that kind of a situation, my fiancee knows that i had a little crush on him for a while, but he doesnt know it was as big of a crush as it was, should i forget about inviting him or invite him because he is a friend and nothing more now, Please help as much as you can.
2007-03-12 05:46:25 · 20 answers · asked by brooke_lynn04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Its not that i still have feelings for him, its the fact that we arent close friends anymore but he is close friends with my fiancee, Im not saying that i am afraid these feelings will come back because i know they wont, im getting married (i dont appreciate the person to told me to postpone my wedding) because im not afraid of inviting him because of feelings i just wondering if we should invite him because my fiancee feels we are both close to him when in fact its just my fiancee who is close to him, im wondering if we should bother inviting him at all, should i let my fiancee invite his friend even though he wants to invite him souly on thinking that we both want him there.
2007-03-12 06:02:22 · update #1
I'd only invite people who you care about, and want to share your wedding day with.
2007-03-12 05:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said in your additional details that it's just your finace, not you anymore, who is close to this guy. That's still ok. You won't both be close to every one of your guests! If your future hubby wants this person there, just invite him. As long as all that stuff is in the past, it won't be a problem at all. Remember that you don't both have to agree on every single guest who is invited. Each person has family and friends that the other may have never even met. It's about bringing all those people together to witness your marriage.
2007-03-12 14:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by heatre24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite him, chances are you won't even get a chance to see him you'll have so many guests and family to greet and talk to that if there is someone there you'd rather not see you can always avoid him. That way your husband to be will know that there are no feelings still and you're mature enough to let that old fling pass. You don't want him to get the idea that you may still have feelings and by not inviting him it may give that appearance, so go ahead and invite him for your fiance and just talk to other people!
2007-03-12 13:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsearay85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a friend of your fiance's, invite him.
I used to have a crush on one of my fiance's friends when we were in HS. (In my defense, the whole school had a crush on the kid!) I became friends with a girl at work, and she and my fiance's friend got engaged and married. We went to the wedding and had a blast. I got a bit drunk and wrote some embarrassing stuff in their memory book. It still gives us all a big laugh. We all already knew about my crush, but who cares at this point? You're how far past high school? Really, it's not a big deal. My friend still complains that I got to see her husband's butt before she did! If you make light of the situation, it won't be a situation. Your fiance is okay with it, why shouldn't you be?
2007-03-12 13:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the bygones be bygones. If you deny inviting him your fiance may feel bad and start having doubts about your past. Invite him like nothing ever happened, after all nothing happened. it's the best way for a closure!!! And every body will be happy, you as it's over and every thing's fine, your fiance cause he'll see you're forever over this ex situation, and the mutual friend cause he'll be able to feel like friend or you two and just that.
2007-03-12 13:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by helena_m_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him. Are you over your crush?? You are getting married, time to forget about your high school dramas, if you guys are truly friends now, he should be invited to the wedding. If you think its going to be akward, you obviously still have some feelings for him and therefore should not be getting married.
2007-03-12 12:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was in high school and you are facing a new, happy married life with your soon-to-be-husband so don't worry.
it shouldn't be that big of a deal, unless you slept with him? if you think this guy will just seduce you to cheat on your fiancee maybe you had better rethink about inviting him.
however, if you are secure about your feelings, then stop getting the jitters; it will show on your face and you don't want to be a nervous wreck, do you?
2007-03-12 12:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your dreams. Think about this for a little while before going to sleep, and see what your deepest thoguhts and feelings really are.
The course of action that is best for one person may not work for another.
The "shoulds" of the world are the things we rebel against at all the wrong times, often enough.
Good luck, and remember,
this is your life.
For the two of you.
Everything else is secondary.
2007-03-12 12:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still truly don't have "ANY" feelings for this boy, it shouldn't be a question at all.
I had a long-term ex-bf at my wedding.
Maybe, and I don't mean to sound harsh, but it is A HUGE commitment you are entering into, you should postpone the wedding.
2007-03-12 12:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by smp1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could invite him to let ur ex crush know it's done and over with him. And your fiancee could know that its over b/c you are getting married and ur ex crush will see how inlove you 2 are...
2007-03-12 12:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by bam_margera_fan_14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋