My dad died a year ago and I've had a tough year with my faith. I haven't stopped believing, just had a slight relapse and been very hurt by this. I love God with all my heart and know these things happen to everyone. Just want to know what sorts of problems other Christians had with the loss of a loved one. For example: I didn't want to go to church, read bible, pray or socialize for awhile. Was mad at God for awhile. Didn't care for awhile if I did things I'd never let myself do before. Just had a feeling of apathy for awhile. I am back and feeling much like my old self, but wondering how others handled death.
2007-03-12 05:40:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can tell from some of your answers, you've not lost someone very close to you to death! Even if they are saved, yes that is a big consolation, but it doesn't lessen the pain to the ones left here on earth! And no matter if you know death happens to everyone, it is still a shock when it happens to someone very close to you!
2007-03-12 08:53:49 · update #1
Also, thank you to everyone who answered the question sincerely and gave me your input! It is nice to know there are other Christians out there who went through the same feelings as I did!
2007-03-12 08:59:51 · update #2
I do not like Death. I sometimes perceive death as a cheat in the game called life. I find it unfair to be left in this world b people close to me. It is not fair that i would have to go on without them by my side.
To go thru depression is normal. We have to allow ourselves to grieve. I know we shouldn't blame God, nor should we question why it came to be. He has His purpose and His will. Maybe that uncle, that bestfriend, that grandmother have already done what they are supposed to do and it is their time to take their place beside God. I cannot blame them for wanting to be with the Maker. I envy them because they are already experiencing eternal bliss while i am still here searching and working on my purpose in life. And i anticipate the time when i will be reunited with everyone and with God.
These are my random thoughts about death. What you went through was normal, in those times, i think what we need most is something to hold on to,... friends, faith, hope,...
2007-03-12 05:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by coco_loco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When U understand in Ecclesiastes the 3rd chapter how the lord has a appointed time for man to live and where they take their rest. Its just a sleep or rest that they take until the lord raise them up. Whoever the love one that may have went to sleep (died), will have no conscience of time nor what is going on in life. Its like when U sleep and may not have a dream also, and U may have thought U slept for a few minutes, but it could've been for hours. same as what happens when U die or (sleep). Plain & Simple
2007-03-12 05:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by poetified2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my Grandpa died i was feeling the same way. Ik that its not the same as your dad but i was really close to my Grandpa. I continually reminded myself that is having a blast in heaven and that he is very happy. I found it interesting when i went to the funeral because not a single person wore black. I guess we all felt the same. If he were here ( which would be kinda stupid if we at his funeral) he wouldnt want us to be sad for him. He would want us to rejoice in the fact that he's with the lord which should even make us some what jelous. So ask yourself what your dad would want you to do? Sit around a mop because he's not there with you cheering you ( where you can see him) or being the most happiest person a live. You shouldnt be getting mad at God. You'll be in haeven with your dad again and you'll see him face to face again. I'll pray for you and your family for your lost but please go and be yourself again it ok he wants it!
may GOd bless you and everyone you love!
2007-03-12 05:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by ilovepointeshoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that death is a part of life. and If the person was saved then he was blessed to die. Just imagine if you will that he was saved and now he is with Jesus. Which is better to be here with all this sin or to be with Jesus.
Even if he wasn't saved we all are given many many chances to be saved. It is our choice.
Death is a part of life the bible says to die is gain (meaning, if you're right you'll be with the Lord which is where christians should want to be).
Don't misconstrew any of this to mean kill yourself cause that isn't what I'm saying.
God Bless
2007-03-12 06:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Krista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my grandmother died I wasn't too sad because she was getting close to 90 and God answered two of my prayers before she died. She started getting sick a few years prior to her death and she started losing her mind so I asked God to get her back in her right mind and let her pass away peacefully in her sleep and both things happened. None of us are meant to stay on earth forever and there is unimaginable joy for us when we leave if we love God. Your dad hopefully was a believer and if not he still has hope because God's mercy endures forever. He will never die again and is at peace. Before you know it you will be with him again!
2007-03-12 05:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I handle a loved ones death with the mindset that God has taken my loved one home! To a better place than I am in. I believe that God needed my loved one more than I did. I believe that God is looking over you and he understands your anger. I am glad to hear that you are feeling better. Just remember that one day you will reunite with your dad with much joy. Death isn't easy to deal with but this seems to help me. I also try to remember all the happiness associated with my loved one because I know that is what they would want. They want us to be happy. So be happy for your dad and if you ever need to talk, just email me. It is nice to see a Christian question. God Bless and good luck!
2007-03-12 05:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by LilbitFiery:) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have lost many people in my life, each one has been different. But, in almost all cases, none have tested my faith in God. One made my faith much stronger, clearer. We come for a time, then we leave. Simple really. When you have done what you came to do, you go Home. Not such a bad deal. I feel more for those who leave as they miss far more people. We just miss the one who left.
2007-03-12 05:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lorraine P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather believe your father is in heaven? Or completely gone, rotting away?
God is here to comfort us. Whether he is real or not, wouldn't you just rather have faith in something?
Not believing in God, gives us no hope. That's what people who dont believe in God and want it all gone don't understand.
If they don't believe in God, and are truly good people, wouldn't they want people like you to have some kind of hope?
It doesn't matter what anyone says, God is here for you. You may not understand why your father was taken, but I am sure there is a reason, You just have to BELIEVE that.
2007-03-12 05:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by chersa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apathy is a good description of what I went through. I was just too tired and depressed to care about much anything that wasn't impending.
2007-03-12 05:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was the guy that gave me insight into Christ, and gave me a simple little tract that I promised to read as I was getting shipped out, he got killed that same night in a firefight, but I only learned of it two days later while in hospital in Germany. I was sad, but wow was I happy that he was now with Jesus, so I guess it really cemented my two day old Christian faith.
2007-03-12 05:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Charles V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋