I need to know if I'm doing the right thing, my ex boyfriend recently tried to contact me via email because he doesn't have a number on me. He recently just had a baby, but before we lost contact we were hooking up behind his girlfriends back. I finally called it quits 4 months ago, at that point I changed all my #'s. So I hadn't heard from him and didn't want to, but as of last week he emailed with a picture that didn't come thru, so just to be nice I returned his mgs. I left him a voice mail congradulating him on his new baby, and wished him well. But I also let him know I didn't think we were ready for reunions and phone conversations. Since I left him alone I live a very quiet and drama free life, and I really want to keep it this way. So was I right for not wanting to invite him back in my life again?
2007-03-12 05:40:01 · 12 answers · asked by Ms. Educated 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ofcourse! completely 100% right
2007-03-12 05:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's to bad others couldn't follow u cuz u made the best decision.U deserve better then second best.U have just proven u deserve better.U r not a home wrecker n hopefully never will b by the sounds of it.Good 4 u for sticking to your guns.He should b a man n learn from this.It's a good thing all u did was send a message back cuz some might goes as far as sending the message to his wife which he does not deserve.Bye for now n don't worry about contacting him ever again for u have no reason to b in his life n need to start thinking about u n what u need.Good luck
2007-03-12 12:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with the care free & no drama life. I've kind of been through that too, the guy just caused so much drama & everything. It'd be best to just keep on living the life you have now. If you start talking to him again, you two might consider getting together again. Leave him for his girlfriend. You can find someone better, not as drama filled. Hope I helped. Good luck!
2007-03-12 12:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by ElizabethKay™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only so much you can do, and yes you did the right thing because you wanted him to focus on his current relationship and being a father to the child that just came into the world, you can't blame yourself for letting him know straight up that it is over and there is nothing he can do to change you mind, and that he needs to focus on other things and not you. You choose how you want to live your life and what you want to do in life, you are going to make decision that you don't want to make but you know you have to if you want any closure, he is not ready to have a relationship now even if he wanted to, and he is going to have to accept it.
2007-03-12 12:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you did the right thing and you have change alot than he does. and He seem not really care about his baby... you know what I mean because his baby and he need to really be busy with that baby.. but seems to me he didn't want to be around the baby and girlfriend...want to be with you.
You know you done very good because you don't want to break that up with baby's parents ya know... I have alot respect for you and I wish there alot women and men out there see what you doing.. Even if you made mistake and you called it quit 4 months ago... wow, I have alot respect and do know that you have a normal life and Drama freeeee smiling.
2007-03-12 12:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you were right. You just mentioned that your life is drama free and you like it like that. Keep the nonsense out of your life by keeping people who bring it out of your life. Good luck with continuing to make such great choices for yourself!!!
2007-03-12 12:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Nutzzzzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm..I think you were being polite when he sent you the picture. He might just be a proud father and sent the pictures to everyone. If he continues to contact you etc..I wouldn't respond. Regardless.
2007-03-12 12:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you totally did the right thing, and I congratulate you for being strong and independent. And most importantly, for being able to see the situation for what it really was.
2007-03-12 12:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by RIF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definetly are doing the right thing find someone that you have more things in common with
2007-03-12 12:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You have the right to let in or leave out people in your life. It is "YOUR'S" and no one can violate your rights.
2007-03-12 12:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋