I'm 15 years old. I have a 16 year old brother and a 9 year old sister. We've recently been placed into a foster home. Sometime this week, we're supposed to be placed with our grandparents. But my grandfather doesn't want my brother because of all the trouble he's gotten into. I love my brother and don't want to be split up from him. What should we do? How can we work this out? I promised my mom that I wouldn't let them split us up, but I don't really have any say in the matter. What should I do though? Please I need some real advice.
2007-03-12 05:37:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh i am so sorry for this mess you have been placed in can you try to talk to grandma and see is she can talk to grandpa it might help,the problem is i am sure your grandparents are a little older and they fear the outcome if they bring a young man into their home that could cause them problems its a understandable worry but i also understand not wanting to be split up i know you have a case worker try her/him and see if they can intervene on your behalf,the most important thing it to remember you really have no control over this promise or not you have to do what the adults decide but i am sure your mother knows this.good luck hon and i hope and pray it works out for the best for you and your siblings.
2007-03-12 05:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter that is difficult and I can imagine the position that your grandfather is in. No one should have made you promise to keep you together because you are a child and dependent on other's for your care. That's wrong. You see that, don't you? Try to give your grandfather a break because sometimes people have to do things to protect themselves for harm. It's called tough love and maybe your brother needs a dose of it. He probably has had bad influence from your parents and needs to be shown that he has to follow rules. You and your brother will always be special to each other. I promise.
2007-03-12 05:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have promised your mother that and it was irresponsible of her to allow you to make that promise. This is out of your control. Go with your grandparents. Your brother will go to a place that is the best for him. Take good care of your sis and stay out of trouble. In three years, maybe you will be able to look after your sister and be with your brother.
2007-03-12 05:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do whatever you can! i will pray for you...pray about it also...tell your grandpa that you love your brother and that you wont be happy without him! tell your brother to try not to get in trouble! i really hope this workes out for you! when your brother is old enough he can get out of foster care and you can be together! good luck i will pray
2007-03-12 05:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you are caught up in the 'system' and have little control unfortunately. Do you have anyone you have come into contact with that you can talk to about this?
2007-03-12 05:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stand against it. no one can split a family.
2007-03-12 05:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋