Am I being unreasonable and unfair?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been going out a month, but we have been best friends for a year. We spend a lot of time together, almost every day. We have a great connection, both mentally and physically. However, I want to wait until marriage. He has had sex before and I've heard it's practically impossible to withold sex for too long after you've already had it. I love him so much and he has told me how much he loves me. He told me that yes, he does want sex because he is a guy, but not until I am ready, and he knows that is marriage for me. The other night things got a little out of hand and he moved my hand down to his area and he also started to "dry hump" me (sorry TMI I know) and I felt bad afterwards, and he felt bad for making me feel bad. I would do anything for him, but he respects my decision. I almost feel like I'm being selfish and causing him to be really frustrated. Is this unfair for me to expect him to wait? He doesn't make me feel this way, I just feel I am.

Any advice, opinions or criticism is much appreciated.

Btw: I am 20 and he's 25.

Answer 1

Your not unreasonable or unfair. Unless you would say he is unreasonable and unfair for asking for sex.

Typically guys see sex as just something physical to do......and women make a whole big emotional deal out of it. So your both normal.