Would you say yes if your boyfriend asked you to move in with him to his mother's house where he lives along with his mother, his younger brother and his wife? You are 28 and single, your boyfriend is 35 and divorced. The divorce wiped him out financially and that is why he had to move back in to his mother's house. You are not engaged or planning to marry anytime soon.
2007-03-12 05:35:38 · 37 answers · asked by trax2345 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say in a very soft voice..."YEAH RIGHT LOSER"
2007-03-12 05:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by nalla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me for saying this but are you living in a joint family somewhere in India?? This sounds like a no win situation for you.
First of all, you're going to have to get used to not just living with your boyfriend but his whole family. We know that most families are dysfunctional. Most Mom's are pretty overprotective over their sons. She (his mom) will make your life living hell if you do just one incorrect thing. She'll meddle in your life too much. Even if they have a big house it will get too crowded and drama can build up. Second, he's not financially secure. You shouldn't have to bear the consequences of him having financial problems from a divorce. You deserve a healthy new beginning. I understand about your boyfriend moving back home. I wouldve done the same thing. Wait for him to save his money and then move out like a real man should. At his age he should be one taking care of his family financially and not vice versa.
Your boyfriend may be a great catch but it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
2007-03-12 05:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by cuteami78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
You seem to be someone who already understands this is not an idea situation. You probably won't be happy there and understandably so. Why would he have you move in? Wouldn't it be better for the both of you to find somewhere else to live, an apartment or condo to rent? I fully understand being wiped out in a divorce, however he should still have earning power to move out with you.
That is just too many people under one roof, no intimacy or privacy. Living with mom is just too "momma's boy". This won't last long.
Find someone new, someone that has a future beyond his...
2007-03-12 05:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweaty the answer is NO!!!!!
He is not 22 to say he is still young i mean he is 35, if he was responsible enough he would at least be living by himself, i understand that divorce is expensive but you should not move with him until he has an apartment or somewhere where both of you will live together without people bothering you guys.
2007-03-12 05:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
You must be in India in a joined famiy because, otherwise why would you do it? Look I can't even live with my own mother. Don't get me wrong , family is important, but why doesn't he move in with you??? it's ok if your not engaged or planning to get married, but if you two do decide to live together, do it with each other first, like they say, "you never no a person until you live with them." So why make it 4 people that you have to get to know instead of one, think about it? Good lucK
2007-03-12 05:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That situation sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.
If you want to move in with your 35 y.o. boyfriend, you should do it when you can afford it. A divorce can cause a lot of financial difficulties, but if you and your boyfriend can't afford a place together, don't count on this making you happy. Don't you deserve to live in a place that you can call your own?
2007-03-12 05:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. Because it seems like they're crowded enough already. I understand that he's hurting financially, but I would feel to crowded in a house like that. Maybe you should have him move in with you. Or just tell him the reasons why you don't want to. Also, if you really wanted to move in with him, and had no other feelings about it, you would'nt have asked for peoples advice on the matter. I'm just saying.
2007-03-12 05:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don' think I could do it. However if its just a stepping stone until you get on your feet I see nothing wrong with it as long as his mother is genuinely OK with it. If you are going to stay and never leave then definitely not, but if you plan on leaving and getting a house together (or co habitating in the near future) I say go for it.
2007-03-12 05:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - I'd wait until he got back on his financial feet, at least - I'm all for making my own money and not leaning on him, but I don't want the man leaning on me either. I wouldn't have anything to do with combining bills/expenses/families until he got himself settled again. It means being patient, but if the relationship's going to go anywhere, there's plenty of time available down the road to share a home that's just yours and his.
2007-03-12 05:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what!!?? Time to realize how much youre worth! A man with no income, who lives in his mothers house, is good enough for you? In a case like this you would always feel like a foreigner in that household. How about waiting for him to get up on his feet first?
2007-03-12 05:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by Javier B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. That is way too many adults in one house. Plus how are you supposed to build a relationship when you still live under mom's roof? But to each his own. This would bother me, but I've known people that have done it and live there until they are on their feet again. I bet it takes alot of understanding.
2007-03-12 05:40:45 · answer #11 · answered by Kellybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋