WHAT IS WRONG with wanting someone that I find physically attractive. I don't mean to be shallow, but I also look at personality. If the guy is a handsome jerk, of course I'm not going to go out with him. But if I like his personality AND his looks, what's wrong with that? I've tried dating ugly guys before, and it never works out b/c I'm just not attracted to them and cannot force myself to be. I can't help the way that I feel, but am I really wrong for wanting someone physically hot, as well as personality?
2007-03-12 05:29:55 · 20 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be physically attracted to the person you're dating. Anyone who says otherwise is either ugly and wanting to date you, or a utopian.
2007-03-12 05:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by dave_cooke1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you aren't wrong for wanting an attractive guy. We all have our desires and preferences and of course what looks good to you won't be what another woman thinks is attractive. What I think is wrong is to type-cast. To only date a particular guy for his looks because as you said, I know a lot of good looking assholes that like women to cater to them. I think however that by passing someone over strictly based on looks is a mistake. Example, I have a thing about teeth. I love a man with a nice, healthy, straight and sparkling set of teeth. My fiance's teeth are clean and straight, but he also has a nice sized gap between the two fronts - a few years ago I would have passed him up in an instant. But after agreeing to go out with him, he has EVERYTHING else I wanted in a guy, he's almost tailor-made for me. I had to ask myself am I going to give up the 9 great things he is for the 1 thing he isn't....HELL NO! As I said, he's now my fiance. What I'm saying is, we all have things that we absolutely will not do without in a mate, you just have to decide which is more important to you. Looks are nice but they also fade, and in the end, you will have to live with your choices for the rest of your life. Good luck.
2007-03-12 06:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are not wrong. In my opinion the first impression is the most important one. First impressions are always what you see on the outside. Which in most cases is looks. If you're with a guy that isn't as attractive then you will not be able to give yourself completely to him. You'll also fanaticize about being with someone else. I've dated ugly guys in the past before (Patel guys, ewww). Now that I think about it I get a shiver down my spine. (Patel people, please dont take offense!)
2007-03-12 05:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by cuteami78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you!!! I felt bad that I wanted to date someone that I was attracted to because most of the attractive guys that I meet are jerks. But Im not gona keep looking hopefully I wont get too old. My biological clock is ticking though. But there is nothing wrong with that. Us women settle too much Im pretty damn sure men hardly settle for what they want.
2007-03-12 05:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that at all.
A relationship requires physical and emotional attraction. That's just fact. Shallow is paying attention only to the physical. It's not shallow to take it into account.
2007-03-12 05:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by parrotsandgrog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its no longer precisely incorrect. I propose you ought to stick on your desires and in line with danger grotesque and fat isnt what you desire. and fact is, the great men like him dont somewhat get women such as you. that's the organic way. on the different hand. great and candy are between the wonderful features every physique could have during a courting. some might desire to be on your shoes. attempt to be with him for awhile and notice how issues artwork out. If it doesnt, locate somebody else. Theres nevertheless some great men around.
2016-10-18 04:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No who doesn't want that. U cant be with someone if ur not attracted to him, but i have found people who date not that good loo kin people, learn to fall in love with them through they're personalty, but theres nothin wrong with wanting a hott guy. I know i wanted one and got it too:)
2007-03-12 05:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by gurllucky7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not!! even though his personality is much important, you must feel a least comfortable by his side! don't want to close your eyes during ***** and imagine some other hunk??by the way guys are all always looking for bimbos, so why do girls need to feel guilty about wanting perfection??!!
2007-03-12 05:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by T-spooon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with it as long as you arent harping on it.
who WOULD want someone they arent attracted to? but to make it a point to find a "good looking" guy makes you sound shallow and you probably not find someone that fits your criteria of "personality AND looks"
2007-03-12 05:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it wrong? obviously not for you. you apparently are such a perfect speciman yourself that you can afford to be that picky. but i have to tell you, you're missing out on some great men.
not everyone is 'hot'. some of the nicest people you will meet are average looking or maybe not so much. but its my belief that we regular ordinary looking people try harder.
as far as i am concerned your outlook is perfect.........you are too good for the regular joe and that leaves more men for the rest of us to date.
i hope you find a man one day with the identical outlook as yours, the two of you will deserve each other.
bye bye
2007-03-12 05:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋