i met this cute guy at work and this other girl told me he was 19. then he told me his real age. 22. my mom found out and said that hes too old for me. he's the only man i dated who is sweet and sensite all the other guys just use me as a popularity tool. so he gets more friends.
If. no tell me why
2007-03-12 05:27:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why is it illegal. he's not having sex with me
2007-03-13 00:22:29 · update #1
He probably likes younger girls/women, espically if you are still in high school. Sounds good to his buddies, hey I getting it from a high school girl or a teenager. Be careful, once you get older, say in your 20's he will be looking for that teenager again. Also he can go to bars, clubs, drink, you can not. Remember, you are a teenager,
2007-03-20 05:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a 17 y.o woman shouldnt date a 23 y.o guy. The age difference isn't that much. When you're in your mid to late 20's a five-six year age gap is acceptable. However, for your age not only is it illegal but just not acceptable. You two are on different pages in life. Maybe he's a recent college grad entering the work force. Or someone who wants to settle down in a few years. You're still in high school and have yet to start your career. I agree with the person who wrote that you wont be able to get into 21+ events. For most men (women too) events that have alcohol in them are all too common. Go for someone who's closer to your age and be happy with them. No matter how immature they may seem.
2007-03-12 12:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by cuteami78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first husband was 21 when I met him- I was 16. It ended up a very controlling abusive marriage, took me 8 & 1/2 yrs to get away from him. Thank God my children & I survived. Not saying all would be like this just alot of learning happens between 17 & 23 that you need to learn on your own. They always know how to charm you into believiing they are Mr Lovable & Sweet Guy. Mine was a con artist.
2007-03-20 10:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 17-year old is not a woman. forgive me for being blunt, but no... And that is a HUGE age difference. Different places for each of you in life. there are sweet sensitive guys closer to your age. I would stick with a 2 year window until you are about 24. then it might be ok to jump to a 5 year window.
2007-03-12 12:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My God, just listen to your mom. Every time you kids are told something, you have to know why, BECAUSE should be enough for you sometimes. When you get fully grown and have kids, they will ask the same thing. Some things are just for your good and this is one of them. OK. The law said so. Ask Mr. Man will you and he like to know when he's wearing those pretty shinny bracelets. You say you are not having sex now, you should just listen to your mom. Why does this old man want a kid anyway?
2007-03-20 01:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not as long as he doesn't have sex with you. He can date you....
And this is a funny question for me because I started dating my husband when I was 15, and he was 23....and we got married three years later when I was 18, and he was 26. We have been married for 49 years.
But in those days no one thought about dating an older guy as a problem...girls were always thinking towards getting married, and everyone didn't play around like they do now.
Do there isn't a problem dating him....but your mom is worried he will get too serious with you too soon.....and playing around with sex is so prevelant, she is also worried about that.
At 17 you need time to think about getting serious...but maybe you can get him to know your mom and if he assures her that he knows not to play around ( it could be dangerous for him)...so you need to not put him in any trouble either.
Personally, I don't have a problem with that age difference, if you both agree not to play around with sex....that's pretty important.
Guess you could use me as an example for your Mom that it can work....we have six kids, and grandchildren as well....but we did believe that sex was for marriage.
2007-03-20 01:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? I understand your mom's point of view but if you both like each other and can deal with the age difference. Why not? Just remember you can't get into a lot of clubs or bars and after awhile he might dump you because of this. Don't get to attached when you have more to lose and consider.
2007-03-20 12:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by Steph C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure- age is a number. I know many people who are married with that big of an age difference and things are fine- it depends on the individual- and where they are in their life my husband is 3 years older than me and that's been great for 11 years!!!
2007-03-20 11:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your mother. at 17 I don't think you would be old enough to date a man 21 or older. He's old enough to drink you aren't - I think that right there would cause a lot of tension with him being able to go to the clubs and you can't...
Different maturity levels...... Stay with people your own age
2007-03-20 09:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there is no certainty epecialy in love...
in love dont expect anything..its for the best...
17 from 22 isnt so bad, but has more possibilities of complications especialy age gap...
like i said there is no certainty..but give it a go you never know...but also keep em peeled cause there will be problems abt this...but then again in love when did it not?
2007-03-12 12:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by J o h n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋