its happening in 1 month and she would like me to come out a week ahead of time to meet with her. I don't know her fiance, but I hear from others that she is the leader in the relationship and tells him what to do all the time....
Any ideas?
2007-03-12 05:21:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't go, send a nice gift and a card with your best wishes and leave it at that. Or just go to the actual wedding, definitely DON'T go out ahead of time! that's just asking for trouble!
2007-03-12 06:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does she want you to come out a week ahead of time? I dont think its all that bad to go to the wedding, but meeting with her ahead of time doesnt sound so kosher to me. Did she give any reasons for the meeting?
2007-03-12 06:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's an idea. Let her know that you can't make it a full week before the wedding, that you have plans or something...( unless you think she knows better ).
Maybe she just wants to see if she still has feelings for you or maybe she wants your opinion on her fiancee.
Either way, I think she's over the line asking you to come meet with her a week before she takes her vows with another guy.
If she's the head honcho in this marriage, you may be the truly lucky guy here in that you're the ex and not the bride groom.
2007-03-12 05:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The deciding factor should be the nature of your relationship with her. Is she a friend you used to date or an ex with whom you are now friends? Figure out how you define her place in your life and if "friend" is the most important factor, go and wish her well. If "ex" is more significant, send your regrets. Either way, stop indulging in the gossip about her fiance. You don't know the man and if you value her at all you should be more focused on her happiness than listening to people snipe about him.
2007-03-12 05:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by elsa_bard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you should go and that you want to go, than go a head. Find out for yourself what this guy is like and perhaps what you have heard about her is not true. You can either go and be happy for her and put the past behind you or you can stay at home and make up some kind of excuse to not go. But if you do, dont make a big deal about it, and let them go about their own thing if they are having problems or seem to be than fine, its their life your just showing up for the party and wish they luck.
2007-03-12 05:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is poor taste on her part to invite you, unless of course you parted as the best of friends and are constants in each others lives which if that was the case you would know the new man in her life very well. Sounds fishy. People are strange, be prepared for the drama.
2007-03-12 07:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go. It's a bad idea. There is no need to meet with her before the wedding!
2007-03-12 05:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't meet her ahead of time. There is no need to. She is feeling insecure and should really acess her attitude. I was in a similar situation to yours and i went to the wedding, but i did meet her ahead of time because we were still friends. If you are not still chummy then there is no nned to meet her ahead of time.
2007-03-12 05:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Catherine K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a lot like the movie "My Best Friends Wedding" LOL Well, meet her and don't go by what you hear about her future hubby. Meet him and decide for yourself. My husbands old girlfriend came to our wedding. No biggy.
2007-03-12 05:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess if you have a friendship with your ex, & really wish her well, then by all means go.
If you are being invited just for the " stab wound ", don't.
Personally I could care less about an ex...too bittersweet for me...the past is the past, & what he does in his future is not a care or concern to me...
Best of luck with your decision...
2007-03-12 11:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋