My son has been bugging us to sign him up for school for a year now. We got him into preschool for a half day 3 days a week. He started last Monday and went fine. He had fun and didn't want to come home. Since then, he's had to go kicking and screaming. We've called after we leave him and they say he's fine. He always has fun. Not sure what's going on or what to do. Do we just cancel preschool for now.
2007-03-12 05:17:36 · 8 answers · asked by Bruticusmaximus 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It sounds like seperation anxiety. The best thing to do would be to keep him going consistently. After a while it will become part of his routine and he will be happier. He just needs to realize that this is part of his life, and that you will always be there at the end of class to get him (kids worry that you won't).
Make sure that you do not show stress or anxiety over leaving him at school. Kids pick up on this, and it makes them more nervous. When you bring him to school. Kiss him goodbye, and make a swift exit. The longer you stay, the harder it is for him. With my first child, I use to make the swift exit, then hide around the corner for a while and listen. Sure enough, she stopped crying about three minutes after I was gone.
Having said that, make sure there isn't anything at school that is upsetting him. Do not ask him straight out. Every day that he comes home, ask him about all the fun things he did at school. If he mentions something- ie. He says that Julie was crying. Ask him why she was crying, and then ask him how that made him feel. There may be a reason he does not feel comfortable there.
I agree with other answers. Preschool at 4 yrs. is an important prep for kindergarten. Stick with it.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 06:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of states don't require preschool. Homeschooling is still an option and the only thing they miss is the strict rules and playing with the kids. You can provide that. Most places have homeschooling communities that meet and do lots of PE and sociolizing.
My son did preschool for about 3 weeks. He couldn't stand it. Prior to that, we have always homeschooled. But my son wanted to go. I talked to him and asked him every day what happened. But he wasn't coming home happy. He was coming home crying everyday. Being punished for things I didn't feel were necessary. Like not raising his hand and not coloring all the way to the lines. And many more things. I also felt they weren't teaching him anything except rules. At home he has learned all the basic they teach in preschool, from the time he was 2. Colors and numbers, drawing and coloring pictures was pretty much all they did. A little bit of basic counting. My son is already reading. And while he was in school, he started regressing and refused to read anything at home or do anything extra. So he finally begged not to go enough. I pulled him out.
My advice. Talk to you son and make a plan. Find out what it is he doesn't like. Maybe it's a problem you can fix. Maybe not. But pulling him out isn't the end of the world.
Maybe you can try sitting in on a class as well. Or if the school is alright with it, try spying. Let them know first of course. But watch him when he doesn't know you're there. That way you get to see exactly how he is in school.
Good luck. And remember, they are only young once!
2007-03-12 06:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely wouldn't cancel preschool. He'll get better with the drop off. It is perfectly normal for the children to have separation anxiety when it is their first time in a center. On Monday he probably didn't really understand that you were going to drop him off and leave him. He understood that on the next day which is what caused the problem. Is he telling you fun stories about what he did that day? Ask him his favorite songs that they sing? What is the funniest thing that his teacher does? What they do outside? Only talk about the postive experiences.
Kindergarten is next year so this is a great time to get adjusted to school.
Take Care. SD
2007-03-12 09:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children at this age tend to have a hard time adjusting to a new environment, sometimes crying at first. If your child is fine, like many children, after the first half an hour, the child just needed time for adjustment. Remember, you the parent are the most important thing to this child's life and it is hard to see a part of their heart go away. It is the teacher's job to make them feel safe, loved and respected in this new place. When you pick up your child and if he has a hard time going with you, he is experiencing a normal phase of transition and it will subside. Transition will get better if your son's routine stays continuous.
2007-03-12 05:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by dickman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had the same problem with my daughter. They get a little bit of separation anxiety. But as long as the teachers or counselors are saying that he's fine, I would keep him in evn if it is hard to get him there. That way he can get used to it for when he must by law attend school. It can take sometimes a month or two, but in the end he will adjust.
2007-03-12 05:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by kayaress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cancel. This will prepare him for Kindergarten which you can't just cancel. If he is fine once you get there and there is nothing going on at the school that is troubling him, just keep sending him. It is good for him to go ahead and get into school mode and interact with other kids, and getting some structured education. It will make the transition to Kindergarten easier.
2007-03-12 05:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by dkwkbmn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a battle to get him there but if you have called and he's fine then, I'd say no leave him in it. Maybe he just feels he is missing out on whatever you are doing when he is at school. He's just playing you....it's all good.
2007-03-12 05:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋