me & this guy are friends but we have that "friends with benifits" type thing going on with one another. We're friends who talk, hang out and hook up & its totally fun & we enjoy being w/ eachother. At 1st, I didn't really want to hang out again with him cuz he was this popular, hott, football player when he was in highschool & I was just your average teenage girl. In other words, we were @ different levels on your social ladder.. that wicked intimidated me. Also, I had this picture of him painted in my mind that he was this gorgeous guy who loves to talk w/ hott chicks & hook up with them & I didn't want to get involved. Then i ended up getting involved cuz he thought it was gay that I wasnt giving him a chance to get to know him. & though it's only been a month, I like him but I'm afraid to tell him cuz I can't see us dating. Im afraid that he'll end up cheating on me. Do u think hes in it for the action? I like him but Im afraid he's the wrong guy for me. What should i do?
2007-03-12 05:14:27 · 4 answers · asked by Amy_Lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say go with your gut. You are probably a challenge to him.
Sorry to be so blunt.
2007-03-12 05:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets start at the beginning of the letter with friends with benefits. you messed up there because that is what "friends with benefits" is; no connection or relationship out of it but intimacy and touching. You are just the girl he calls to hang out with when he is bored and has nothing to do. Next, you say that he WAS a football player, so he is out of high school or doesn't play anymore and that makes him a former football player which has nothing to do with the possibility of him cheating. You are already having doubts about this guy so let him go. If he likes you anyway, he will ask you for a relationship but he enjoys the "friends with benefits". Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free.
2007-03-12 12:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats very easy to feel because your not sure but you like them and say he stands u up or cheats on you as you said. But take the chance cause you'll neva know when that time comes again. So if he does cheat on you, you can always stay friends or spread this HUGE rummer that he's not a guy for a strong relationship. So if you want a long relationship he's not the guy. But any way good luck, and as I said what is worse than him cheating on you. So if he says yes you'll so flipping excited. And another thing don't feel to pushy.
2007-03-12 12:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're answering your own question - "can't see us dating", "afraid that he'll end up cheating", "wrong guy for me"... you're playing with fire and you know it - keep on having a good time as long as the fear of getting burned isn't too strong, or until you actually end up getting hurt... The adrenaline can be quite a charge. But don't hold your breath on this working out in the long run - miracles happen, but not very often.
2007-03-12 12:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋