I walk around With this terrible empty feeling inside?

Question

I've been spereated for almost 2 months, And sometimes i get this feeling inside my stomach and chest like something has been ripped out, or something is missing. Than i start to get sad, i almost break down and start crying. I didn't feel this at the begining. it's hurts....any cure for this?. it's makes the days difficult.

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wow a lot of you put forth effort in this answers, i wish i could give out several bests instead of one.

Answer 1

The only cure is time.

Answer 2

Time helps. I loved my wife and was devastated when she past away, and I'm pretty young. I understand the empty feeling and I did cry. Like a baby. And I'm a pretty big, masculine guy. It was bad at first, I was so depressed. It seemed to get better for a while, then it was really bad again. I questioned everything about myself. My mom used to say "self pity stinks". So I decided to stop the pity party.

What helped me most, was going out and helping someone else. I did some volunteer work for disabled children and the homeless. There are alot of people far worse off than me, so instead, I started to count my blessings. (figure of speech, I'm not religious)

I felt good about myself. I helped brighten a few days for someone else, and I stopped focusing on me. Being introspective has its place, but you ultimately have to direct your energy outwardly. That was the key for me.

It's OK to grieve for the relationship. There's a big adjustment to be made, too. In the end this change is what makes us better and stronger.

Best wishes to you and keep moving forward, even when there's a headwind!

I ended up meeting a wonderful woman whom I am totally in love with.

Answer 3

Shift of perception-it's not about "a cure" These are your feelings and they need to come out, allowed to be felt and expressed. If you stuff them they will only rise up and find another way to release themselves, so the first thing is to STOP running from them. You lost someone that you shared four years of your life with. Losing them is like having major surgery and you need to give yourself some slack. The healing process is not a straight process, it is more like a yo yo or a roller coaster ride. Just let it run its course and don't judge what you are feeling. Taking deep breaths and writing down what you feel will help, but learning and growing and changing can ache my friend. AND GET SOME SLEEP! Take a mental health day off from work and rest your weary soul!

Answer 4

Stop tinking about the separation. Focus on other things and stay busy. Feeling immediately follows thought, if you think about things that upset you, you will get/be upset.

It takes time to heal from such things, be the best self support you can by eating right, exersizing moderately, getting plenty of rest and drink lots of water. Don't smoke, don't drink alcohol or use drugs. Spend time with people who support you and are positive about your life, this may mean finding new friends. Join a club, get a hobby. Do what it takes to get your mind on something besides this.

You could also consider counseling if that is an idea that appeals to you. Pets are also a great source of companionship. And there is always antidepressants, but I prefer to try all other options before leaning on that crutch.

Good luck.

Answer 5

The only thing I can really suggest is to try and get over her as much as possible and move on. To help with this you can try a new haircut, start wearing some different style clothes, find a new musical artist to listen to, anything to help change your frame and overcome the past.

What you are feeling is a natural sort of psychosomatic response to such trauma. There is a reason pretty much all cultures believe love is controlled by the heart, and it's because that's where symptoms emerge. Time can compound loss and make things harder, so it's important to find resolution quickly. Things such as your immune system will be weakened.

Answer 6

Sometimes, when people first break up, they tend to try to pretend to themselves and others that it doesn't matter. What you are feeling now is your TRUE feelings. When we lose the one we love, it hurts us to the core. In time, the pain will lessen. Talking to a trusted friend can help, so can opening yourself up to a new activity or hobby. Never make the mistake of getting involved with someone new until you are ready to move on, because you will only be hurting them. Try to keep telling yourself that it is for the best, keeping in mind all of the things that made your relationship go awry in the first place. THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL!!! Sometimes we lose the one we thought we loved with all our hearts, only to end up with our TRUE soul mate down the road.

Answer 7

i'm terribly sorry but try to find a hobby like what made you feel great when you were a kid try doing that.
for example if liked planes
make model airplanes to get her off your mind.

or try chilling with the guys but if you still feel empty then talk to her wife or gf and if you guys had a mutal agreement try to be friends. So you can hang with her every now and then because iven though it didnt work out u guys can still have a healthy friendly realition ship.


or another example go on a cruise meet ppl or do sumthing for the communtiy so you can feel good about helping

i hope this helps!

Answer 8

I recently separated from my husband also..and I know the feeling you are talking about...especially when you come home to an empty house, or see all of the extra time you have now that there is no one to share it with. I have found the best way to cope is to do things that make you happy. Concentrate on your Job a little harder, excersise more....work on making yourself who YOU want to be. When you are focusing on other things like making yourself happy...it helps the time pass, until your heart can actually heal. I know its hard, but just hang in there..and..try not to hold things in. If you are feeling something...just embrace it....talk to someone, or just think about your feelings until things make sense to you. Its a good time to reflect on what you want to do with your life, and what went wrong.

Answer 9

You may have depression. There are meds that can help you. See a Dr. Also you need to find diversions to keep your mind occupied. Take some classes, learn ballroom dancing, learn to cook, join a hiking club, volunteer for a charity. Get busy.

Answer 10

Go out and meet new people. Don't stay locked up inside! I know it's hard but there are plenty of good people out there so go strike up a conversation with someone completely new and don't be afraid to live again! Good luck to you!

Answer 11

I know how much it hurts...when I was in a long relationship, it took me a long time to move on....the pain can be unbearable...and the time it hits is when you have too much free time to think of things...so during my period of 'mourning' as I call it...I kept myself busy, busy, busy....busy enough that I had no time for friends, family, or people, but then that impacted my friendships so I had my friends around me constantly, and they really got my mind off everything...and the next thing you know...I've been single for 7 months...complaining, but dealing with it because I know that good things come with patience and time...when you spend 4 years with someone, you're definately going to feel an emptiness and hopefully people around you are supporting you, and hopefully I can too...repression can do this...write out your feelings...compose....the days may be difficult but don't believe it...believe in the happiness your mind creates...and believe in yourself, because you're proving your strength just by admiting that you're hurt...now the next step is facing it with stride...and know that you're great inside...and that there's nothing you CANT get yourself out of...if you get yourself in something, you get yourself out of it...and you have all the resources available to you..
people...friends...family...pets...doctors...etc...books...writing....music....music heals....it can help alot.

and you know you're now one of my best friends and I don't like seeing you like this. so cheer up doll. you're amazing, and you don't deserve to cry over someone whose hurt you.