my bf says he wants to take it slow - well we are broke up because I am tired of him tlaking to his exs, going out all the time and we took a break. Now we talk and he said he wants to be with me loves me and wants to take it slow.
Would it be a bad idea to go out with other guy friends and not hide it from him? Just to show him that I am tired of waiting and tired of him going out with all of his friends guys & girls all the time?
2007-03-12 05:01:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have dated 6 years.He said he wants to make it right this time so we dont keep brekaing up.
2007-03-12 05:03:34 · update #1
I personally wouldn't want a husband who disrespects me by talking to ex's. What I'm saying is this. He is who he is. If he saw the hurt he caused you by doing this and stopped immediatly, I'd say you have hope, but I wouldn't expect change at this point. Look for someone who won't treat you like that. I'm sorry you're in a crappy situation, but be thankful you didn't discover this AFTER you married. Good luck to you.
2007-03-12 05:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to go out with someone else or would this just be a way to get back at him for not behaving the way you think he should behave in this relationship?
I didn't read anywhere in your question that you love him. It sounds like his behavior is unacceptable to you and that he would have to change in order to be a part of your life. That's not love.
Maybe it's time to let this relationship go and look for someone that is more compatible with you.
2007-03-12 05:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Payback is a b*tch. I'd definitely do it. He obviously doesn't understand how it is making you feel if he keeps doing it over and over again. Just don't stoop to the cheating level, even though you guys aren't together it wouldn't be right to do something like that to show him how it feels, but I'm sure you already know that so good luck.
2007-03-12 05:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say no way. did u like it when he did it to you? it hurt didnt it. the truth, it may not seem it sometimes, but guys have feelings, and they do not like getting them hurt. they hide a lot of it. so think about the pain you had-do you really want to hurt him that way too?
also, if you think that his ideas are wrong, about going slow, talk it out WITH him. dont hide anything with the people you love.
2007-03-12 05:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By doing what he is doing to you it will only make the situation worse. Tell him you need some more time if you feel as though you wanna date others. But showing him what you have been though is only gonna cause trouble, cause he is gonna look at you different. Trust me I did it to my childs father and we can't stand each other now.
2007-03-12 05:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lady E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all ur pushing him away by being possessive + jealous. that is not love...its control...he probably doesnt like the way u act when he goes out...and the reason he goes out with his friend is 2 xcape from u. im sorry 2 b so rough on u but i use to b like u + it got me no where but lonely. so stop b-4 u lose him...please.
2007-03-12 05:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by grasshopper9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you intend to do isn't going to help. Now if you both cannot be open & honest and stop all this game playing, give up now and move on. From what you wrote, you want revenge, not love.
2007-03-12 05:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think thats the best thing 2 do. i mean wut if hes serious now and he really wanna be wit u, and u go and get wit other guys even though u know u want him. wuts the point? i know he hurt u by talkin and goin out wit his exs, but giv him a chance now and let him prove that he wanna luv u and be wit u. u can tell him that u dont like it when he spends 2 much time wit other girls, and if he means wut he says, then he'll listen. if not, let him go cuz he aint worth it.
2007-03-12 05:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by herimos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend Dr. Laura's book: 10 stupid things women do to mess up their lives. You might get a different perspective of yourself and him.
2007-03-12 05:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Who's got my back? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of 2 things will happen. he will get jealous and split, or he will be think headed and not even notice. Guys are like that.
2007-03-12 05:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋