How do you know if your experiencing cold feet, im getting married soon and im wondering if im having cold feet or if im just stressing myself out and worrying about things i shouldnt be. Please Help!
2007-03-12 04:57:48 · 11 answers · asked by brooke_lynn04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
cold feet
-thinking that he's the only guy your ever going to be with....ever
-wondering if this is really love or not
-thinking this has gone way to fast and you want it to slow down and go back to just dating
-regreating you said yes when you asked you to marry him
-your thinking of other guys that you have dated and can picture them at the end of the asile as well
-thinking this is going to be more work than fun trying to stay together and making this marriage work
Stressed out
-things are going wrong, and you wish that you could just start over and pause time
-worried if he's feeling the same way and knows this is FOREVER no turning back
-your hoping he's the one and you believe he is , but your just scared you might be wrong
I am sure your just stressed out, planning a wedding does that the most of us. What you need to do , is stop worring about how everything should be perfect and just have fun and focus on your soon to be husband. Think of all the good times you had with him and the new things that lay a head. Look in your heart and you will know that this is the right thing. You dont want to look back and remember this day as being just stress and no fun.
Congrats!
2007-03-12 05:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brides to be do often get 'cold feet'. I think that's a normal thing. So don't stress that one.
If you're wondering if you've made the right choice and if you will still love him after you've lived together several years that too is normal.
Now if you are seriously ( I mean seriously ) worried about whether or not the two of you are compatible you might want to postpone the marriage for a while until you feel more comfortable with making such a long term commitment.
Talk it over with him and without hurting his feelings, tell him the truth.
Love, trust and honesty are essential to a successful marriage.
2007-03-12 05:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A general sense of nervousness about a wedding is normal – after all it's a life-altering step that you're taking. If you're feeling nervous and yet still excited, it's probably just the pre-wedding jitters.
Serious Problems that Should Cause you to Call Off the Wedding:
-If you've discovered that your future spouse has a drug or alcohol problem and is not in recovery
-If your future spouse has been violent towards you
-If either one of you has been unfaithful or deceitful
-If thinking about the wedding has given you feelings of dread rather than happiness for more than a month
-If you differ on whether or not to have children
-The majority of your friends don't like your future spouse
-If you're only going through with it because you will be too embarrassed to call it off, or you're worried about hurting your fiancé.
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2007-03-12 05:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really love him? Does he really love you? Are you ready to "settle down" (always hated that term) and be commited to ONE person?
To get "Cold Feet" means that one of the above is something your questioning. Do some serious thinking in the next few days and decide.
Good luck
2007-03-12 05:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mike E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what your worried about. You have to look at your worries and decide are these things that are really important to you? I got "cold feet" at my wedding 12yrs and 2 kids later we are divorced. Sometimes I think it's a sign.
2007-03-12 05:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold feet is when you start questioning everything that has to do with the wedding...is he really the right person, etc.
2007-03-12 05:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly in love and are adult enough to be ready for the responsibility of marriage then, there should be no cold feet.
2007-03-12 05:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Catherine K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to feel nerves on your wedding day. Everyone does. Just over come that feeling and walk down that isle. Marriage is scary. It is a life time commitment. But it is also an enjoyable one. Good luck to you!
2007-03-12 05:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Juya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold feet, butterflies, doubts etc. are all common..
Do not marry a man with whom you have already
noticed character / personality problems..
He will not get better after marriage, he will get worse
and you cannot "fix" him...
2007-03-12 05:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its totally normal...try warming your feet on someone else's backside!
2007-03-12 05:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋