His name is Anthony and I really like him but my parents have grounded me and took away my phone try to keep me away from him. I really do like him; I have a big trust issue on who I can trust but when I talk to Anthony I feel as if I can talk to him and all my issues disappear. I mean he has messed up in the past but he really has changed and he told my mom he would lay his life down for me. I want my parents to accept him and forgive him for what has happened in the past. I mean it not only are they disrespecting him but their also disrespecting me. I'm confused! I dont know what to do. HELP!!!!
2007-03-12 04:55:36 · 6 answers · asked by Tori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With out knowing what his criminal record is it is hard to say what you should do. Try to look at it from your parents point of view you are a minor apparently if they are grounding you, and they are just trying to keep you safe. As a parent I would wonder where this boy will take you in life.
But like I said it is hard to say if you are not stating in your question what the criminal record is.
2007-03-12 05:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Marla D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have indicated that you are 16 years of age, your parents are able to make your choices for you.
You will like many different guys in the next years of your life, and if you were my daughter, you would not be allowed to be communicating with or seeing a young man with a criminal record.
They are not disrespecting you, they are protecting you from someone who is not a good choice. You have to mature a bit more before you are capable of making your own choices, and in choosing someone with a criminal record you are really showing your immaturity.
If he is your age, and especially if he is older he is playing you to prove what a changed person he is. He knows that you are young and inexperienced and is obviously trying to get something from you, most likely sex.
There is nothing to be confused about, your parents are obligated to care for your well-being until you become eighteen and that is what they are doing.
I would suggest that you focus on your schoolwork right now, and let Anthony worry about Anthony. If he still wants to be your friend once you are of age, than it will be your decision.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 12:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, im sorry, but, are you a he or she? your icon tells me you're a he. but you sounds like a she. tell you parents that you're the kind of person who has a big trust issue, and this guy is the kind of guy you trust. tell them that he made a mistake that made him a criminal, but things change--people change. we cannot condemn someone forever for what he did in the past. tell him that he's a very different person now.
tell them that nobody's perfect. you are not, and neither are you parents. ask them how they would feel if their daughter (you) did a mistake in the past and therefore nobody wants to have a relationship with you because of it. tell them that your parents once did a terrible things in their past (well you should know).
tell them that you've never been this happy before he came. taking him away would also mean taking your human right--free will. tell them, if they cannot trust him, the least thing they can do is to trust you...prove that they're wrong--prove that he's a good guy now. show some integrity. that way, your parents will know how much you like this guy.
2007-03-12 12:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Freedom yeah freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tori, judging from your phrase about being grounded, I surmise you are still quite young. If your guy has already accumulated a criminal record at such a young age there is probably more of that is store. He can promise your parents he will lay down his life for you but that is just his inexperience talking, trying to buy over your parents. Your best bet would be to get away from him and look for a less complicated individual.
2007-03-12 12:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's a sensitive issue for your parents and it should be for you also. depending on the crime too. if a year or two has passed and there is no crime or unacceptable behavior...perhaps your parents will reconsider 'accepting'.
tell him that that kind of thing takes time. accepting him wont happen overnight and if your guy is rehabilitated or taking the better road, honorable road...he should also understand your parents view. peace
2007-03-12 12:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i guess it really depends on why he has a criminal record. if you are willing to forgive him and you know for sure he is not that same person and you truly care about him, i would say give it time with your parents, i don't know how old you are or how old he is but try to show your parents that you are responsible and you can make good decisions.
2007-03-12 12:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋