OK I have been dating this AWESOME guy for a little over a month or so and last night we had sex for the first time. It was actually the first time I even saw / felt his manhood.
Well to my suprise he is, to put it gently, SMALL!!!!
I know, I know it shouldn't really matter but in a way it does. It was to the point where I could hardly feel him inside of me at all!
I don't know what to do.... Should I say screw it and move on, or should I say it doesn't matter and stay?
We have sooo much in common. He is like the perfect guy for me, instead of that one little problem. (please excuse the pun lol)
AHHHH!!! PLZ HELP!!!!
2007-03-12 04:40:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats a tough one. If you are used to larger sizes maybe you will get used to his smallness. If not and you dont feel you will ever be satisfied I would say you have to leave the guy. i know it doesnt seem right but in the end you are doing both of you a huge favor. Pardon the pun.
2007-03-12 04:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's really not wise to have sex before marriage. You sound pretty young and if I was your sister I would tell you to wait to have sex until you love him deeply and are married. Love is truly nothing about sex. It's about being there for someone in the deepest and most intimate fashion. This question is really insignificant because it has nothing to do with the spirit of love. I would suggest reading some books on true love and intimacy, talk to your priest or pastor. Don't fall into this over sexualized world ... God bless you.
2007-03-12 12:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say to you as I do not believe in sex before marriage. When your in love with a man he's everything and you would do any thing to love and protect him from this at times cruel world. And if you had to you would fight for him. Nothing absolutely nothing will be unloveable. He will lack nothing. He will be enough in every way ... you will know deep down this is the man you were meant to be with. And then and only then does a couple share the most amazing intimacy. Best of wish's to you.
2007-03-12 11:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by divinity 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't that small; maybe you're too wide, ever look at it that way? I hate being this blunt but honestly, I am sick of hearing women complain about a totally false premise and their inability to cope with the situation more creatively!
Would you forsake all that is perfect in him just because you are not sexually satisfied? There are many other ways you can be pleased in bed beside coitus. Look into all the options you have at your disposal to make it work!
2007-03-12 11:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok I actually had this VERY SAME problem with my current man and I felt really bad for feeling the way that I felt but give it another try because the second time we did it, it was much bigger so I kind of figured that he was nervous the first time and that will affect the size. Your body will adjust to accomodate so don't throw a good thing away quite yet. It has all worked out for me.
2007-03-12 11:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Olivia 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
If everything else about him is soo great then you wouldn't even think twice about staying and seeing how the relationship works out. If this is your first sexual experience, then who's to say that you got the entire "package" so to speak? I mean, give him a chance he might compensate in other areas, if you don't know what I mean use your imagination. ;) Give him a change, don't throw something away just because he has a small penis.
2007-03-12 11:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
It depends are you in love with sex or your man? If your in love with sex then you know what you are? A Wh-re, Sl-t, Tramp, Trash. However if your in love with your man then you know you are pretty good girl!
2007-03-12 11:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by Law School 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, size does matter to an extent. I dont know why some women say it doesn't just to console the opposite sex. For getting pleasure there are many other ways he could satisfy you. But if his size REALLY bothers you, I don't think you guys should be wasting time with each other. But if you think your love for him triumps his size, then stick with him.
Think about it.
2007-03-12 11:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by OOOOLALA 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
It matters if your a white trash tramp ... a human dumpster. Is it love that's important to you or a d-ck!? Your pathetic!
2007-03-12 12:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by lifecoach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are medical enhancements these days (not speaking from experience), or perhaps your perfect guy could learn to pleasure you orally....there is more to a lasting relationship than just sex, but some good sexual pleasure does go a long way, not to mention ease tension.....sounds to me like you have yourself a real dilemma...good luck
2007-03-12 11:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by l00kstwice 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋