My boyfriend is getting to the point that he is almost paranoid. We moved in together back in November and we have been exclusive for almost a year now. Over the past week I have noticed some of his tendencies becoming more profound. He has always been a little possesive and over protective but it hasn't been this bad. For example, he wanted to know where I went for lunch one day, how long I had been there, and what time I got back to work. I have been kind of busy lately with a wedding I'm planning, and he thinks I am purposely trying to avoid him. He even went through my car the other day. I feel like I go through an interrogation process when I get home everyday. I love him with all of my heart and I'm not going anywhere. I just have been really busy lately, it doesn't mean I don't want to be with him. He does this, everytime I get really busy at work, he starts thinking I want to break up. Why is this? What can I do to make him believe that he is the one I want?
2007-03-12 04:38:17 · 4 answers · asked by stefanisky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to talk to him tell him how he is making you feel and what he is doing to you, and how you feel about him and stuff like that. you need to tell him that he is over protecting you and that he needs to cut back a little and give you, your space, good relationships have alone time from eachother too they dont have to be up eachother butts 24/7 ya know what im trying to say. it could turn into an abusive reltionship first they try to control you them when you dont listen they start to hit you and smack you around and thats no fun.
2007-03-12 04:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Carly-Bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to nip this in the bud immediately. It's not cute that he's doing this, as some women tend to think. Oh, look at my boyfriend and how much he cares about me. He has to know where i'm at at every second, hee hee. NO. It's only going to get worse. You need to seriously talk with him and tell him you won't tolerate his jealousy and insecurity. You're not his child and you're not married. He has no right to impose these sorts of demands on you.
Seriously, nip it now or you'll pay later. Guys like this can turn violent or verbally abusive if they feel like they're not in control. Don't say you weren't warned.
2007-03-12 11:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he has insecurity issues. you need to tell him to trust you and back off, or end the relationship. really, this isnt healthy for either of you.
2007-03-12 11:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just go up to him and give him the biggest kiss u possibly can without swallowing his head and tell him that u aren't leaving h and that u love him more than the world and see wat that does for ur problem
2007-03-12 11:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by delta3835 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋