My husband has told me that I am not as attractive to him as I used to be, and that I need to lose weight. He was not trying to be mean and I know that it is true. I have lost about 10 pounds but have a lot more to go. Even though he said it as nice as he could it still hurt my feelings a lot and I feel absolutly disgusting. I realize that it will take quite a while to see real results. What can I do to to make myself feel better/more attractive in the meantime? I feel miserable.
2007-03-12 04:37:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Feeling down about yourself will greatly hinder your progress. Try to focus on all the great steps you ARE taking towards looking the way you want to look. The minute you feel good about yourself, the minute you'll be able to accomplish your goals. Look at yourself in the mirror and repeat "I am beautiful" over and over again - even if it feels wrong at first - just do it every day and don't give up going to the gym and eating right. Pamper yourself and wear clothes that make you feel good in your current body.
Before you know it, you'll get to where you want to be.
2007-03-12 04:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by DaveJoseph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost 105 pounds in 6 months. Here is how I did it.
1. Every morning get up and walk for 45 minutes. You can start with less time, but you want to get up to 45 minutes, and it must be fast walk. You want your heart rate to go up. It must be in the morning, it kick starts your metabolism.
2. I cut out Red Meat, and fatty foods. Boneless skinnless chicken breast, baked, or grilled, rice and vegetables (steamed).
3. Eat half. Just eat half of what you normally eat. Put 1/2 on your plate, and put the rest away. Cook less. When you go to fast food, get salads only. Or grilled chicken. No fries, only diet soda. Or water.
It will work, once you get into a routine, you will get hooked on the results, and you will keep the routine. It has been over a year for me.
Also start counting your calories. Write them down. You would be amazed as to how much more aware you are of your caloric intake, if you actually write it down. We recently discovered a site that offers a great program that counts calories, as well as keeps track of everything. It allows multiple users, so everyone in the family can keep track. They offer a free 7 day trial, and so far I am very impressed with the product. Try the 7 days and see. It allows you to add the exercise that you do during the day, which increases the amount of calories you can take in. Very Cool!!
http://www.calorieking.com
A sight with some really cool diet calculators and interesting calorie counting calculators is here. Check it out.
http://www.caloriesperhour.com/
Check out my before and after pic at my yahoo 360 page
http://profiles.yahoo.com/gorillamyke
Stay motivated, and get up and walk every day. I seriously lost all my weight starting off my day on my walk.
Good LUCK!
2007-03-12 11:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend got hrough this A really outgoing, dominant person, almost crippled by this in terms of dating.
Well, her self-esteem, or her feelings about her weight, really changed for the better when she
JUST DID IT.
It sounds so stupid, but every achievement was a reason to smile.
Life is a journey, honey.
I wonder what's going to make you so proud of yourself AFTER losing the weight?
That's the real challenge, is to figure out how to keep that cycle of good energy going!
And your honey sounds like a man who will support you in your triumphs. I hope that he gets used to hearing the little details, although you might want to join a group who can relate to you and all.
Also, if you feel pride in and compassion for the people in your group, you will internalize that for yourself, and treat yourself with the same feelings.
It's great taht you want to be healthy.
Remember, part of what makes us choose our mates, on a deep biological notion, is how healthy you seem to be.
So, attraction really IS secondary to your health.
Go for it!
2007-03-12 11:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you love your husband and may respect his opinion, you have to love yourself more. The fact is you ARE losing weight and you ARE trying. That should be plenty for him right now. Don't be so hard on yourself. Plan on some nice treats when you achieve a weight loss goal, a new top, manicure, anything to remind you that you are doing the right thing. FWIW you could counter your hubby's comments with something like "Honey, I know you want what's best for me, but you have to give me time. I understand what you are saying, and I'm dealing with it. Back off."
2007-03-12 11:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember the more you continue to loose the better you will feel about yourself. In the meantime you could go pamper yourself and get a new hair style and a new outfit. That always makes one feel better.
2007-03-12 13:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by crazykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go to the gym every day....I guarantee you will start to feel better from day one that your are going....I will also guarantee that if you do 30 minutes + a day for 2 weeks you will see results....not a long time at all! :)
2007-03-12 11:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what? Just feel good about the fact that you are doing something about it!!! Just remind yourself that you are doing it slowly but surely!!
2007-03-12 11:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by guno77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋