I've been with my bf for 1 year. i'm 18 and he's 19. He doesn't like it when i talk to another guy (just friends). I had to break contact with all my male friends. And i had one with whom i had been a real close friend for 2 years and i miss him sometimes. i just had to tell him to stop talking to me coz my bf goes crazy if he finds out. And he doesnt let me go out with my girl friends alone either. He just wants to be with me everytime i go out. is he too jealous or is it normal?
He stopped talking to all his friends coz of me (i never told him to do so..) so i dunno.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not angry or urged for other guys' company.. but i was just thinking if he's being too possessive.. what do you think?
2007-03-12 04:35:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but i dont wanna leave him..i love him. He's almost obsessed about me (gets kinda freaky sometimes). I dunno were i'd find another guy like him..he does everything for me. do you think he'll get over it after some time?
2007-03-12 04:45:28 · update #1
Sounds like he may be a little over protective/possessive. You should talk to him about it. He's not your father, you're a big girl and can do whatever you want to do. Maybe he's just insecure and a good talk would help. Or he could just be that kind of controlling guy, in which case you would want to consider getting out of the relationship.
2007-03-12 04:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by bluestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being held back from friends now, later will be family until all you have left is your boyfriend. That's not normal behaviour, that's abuse. If you don't do something about now, it will escalate. Do you want to be a statistic?? No should be your answer. This is how it begins, and someday when he does have you all alone with no one but him, then he can start verbal abuse, as well as physical which may or may not end in your murder. Which part of possessive behaviour do you not get?? Read online stories, watch TV about it, and then when all else fails trust your instinct. If you even remotely thought his behaviour was normal, you wouldn't have come on yahoo to get the answer I'm sure YOU already knew in your heart and in your gut. You may love him, but possession is not love, that's abuse and that's the bottom line here.
2007-03-12 12:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is making you stop talking with any of your friends whether they are male or female, then yes, he is controlling you in this relationship. Just don't let it get to the point where you can't do anything with him having to be there because when that happens . . I would start thinking about confronting him or ending the relationship.
2007-03-12 11:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by kat81886 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both rather young, which means he may be still insecure and jealous. if he's smart, he realize it and chill out with time. I've noticed people get less and less jealous as they get older (unless they just have issues to deal with). anyway, the possessive thing gets OLD QUICK, so tell him to take it easy and figure out what it is that bothers him about you having guy friends. does he not trust you? does he not feel like he is enough for you?
2007-03-12 11:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too possesive. He's cutting you off from everyone to just be with him. I was in a relationship like that for 3 years before I realized what had happened to my life. You can try discussing it with him but if he's very adamant, he needs counseling. If he's unwilling to discuss the issue, you are better off to get out now because it won't get better. It gets worse the longer you are with them...next will be your family and your "own" time. Mine didn't want me at the gym, spending time with my nephew who was 3 (at that time), all my free time was supposed to be with him.
2007-03-12 11:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS SOUNDS ALL TO FAMILIAR. IF IT'S BEEN A YEAR AND THERE'S NO CHANGE, HE WILL PROBABLY NEVER CHANGE HIS WAYS. IF YOU LOVE HIM THAT MUCH THAN YOU'LL PUT UP WITH HIS B.S. NO MATTER WHAT. I THINK THAT GUYS WHO DO THIS ARE INSECURE. MAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL HIM TO GROW UP. LIKE I SAID, MY BEST FRIEND IS LIKE THIS WITH HIS LADY(AND SHE'S SO NICE). I DON'T KNOW WHY HE DOES THIS. I ASKED HIM AND HE TOLD ME THAT "IT IS JUST HOW I AM. "IF SHE DOESN'T LIKE IT, THAN LEAVE ME." SOMETIMES THOUGH, IT'S THE GIRLS FAULT FOR LETTING HIM DO THIS TO HER, I MEAN, YOU AREN'T A KID SO MAKE YOUR OWN DECISIONS ABOUT WHO YOU WANT TO TALK TO.
GOOD LUCK KIDDO!!
2007-03-12 12:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tahitoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend he is possessive,you know this,you are not asking this question you are confirm it! you see the signs already
baby girl you need to pray for your strength to do what,s right
for you because this situation will get worse,and God did not
give this man to you, you chose him,anything god give to you
would never disrespect you or cause you to lose contact with
friends nor relatives,look inside and listen to God,he is talking
to you and giving you the answer to what it is you have to do
but if you don,t know how then say,dear Jesus, i with a man
who I know i need to leave,please lord give me strength to
do what is best for me,oh lord guide me through this journey
of healing and wholeness again Jesus name Amen. listen
with your heart and you will find the answer.
2007-03-12 11:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tella 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, he's trying to control you. Nobody can tell you whom you can or cannot hang out with.
2007-03-12 11:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...I think he is a control freak and that is one of the major signs of an abusive person.....break up now before it is too late...good luck
2007-03-12 11:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things will never change. Get rid of him!
2007-03-12 11:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by cswint2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋