Me and my ex of 4yrs have been broken up for about a month with no contact. I treated her so badly due to circumstances from my past and I didn't know how to love her b/c i didn't love myself. I am truly sorry for hurting her with my lies (no cheating) and hope she'll forgive me to where we'll be friends. Well I've met another female, beautiful, smart, and sweet. Why do I feel so bad about taking this to the next level? I have been completely honest with this new girl. I'm attracted to her but why do I feel guilty and continue to think about my ex when I'm sure she and I have no chance of getting back together? I'm so confused!
2007-03-12 04:23:33 · 5 answers · asked by so_sincere 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should probably just call you ex so that you can have a clear consciouses. You are carry this guilt on because you don't know whether or not you ex have forgave you for the things that you have done to her. You deserve to be happy and but you should learn from your mistakes. Don't treat this new love as you did your last. I donut know if you and your ex would ever be friends again, maybe in time. Its worth the try.
Just be honest to all parties.
2007-03-12 05:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't closed that part of your life. your guilt is overwhelming you. write your ex a letter, call her. whatever you have to do to apologize for what you did. she was an innocent victim of your past. that's why you should never get involved with someone until you can put it all behind you. that's what is called baggage. lighten the load and you'll be a better person for it. live with yourself before you invite another into your world, otherwise you'll end up like this again. good luck
2007-03-12 11:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, the best thing for you to do is to leave your ex alone... the apology you are thinking of giving is actually a means to make yourself feel better, by relieving the guilt of you treating her like garbage while you've found someone you deem as being worthy of treating like you're in a relationship with... what you need to do is take that guilt you feel, and lock it into your brain as how not to treat this new person and you'll be fine...
2007-03-12 11:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by ragefury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave her alone, you really hurt your ex. You have no idea how bad of an impact your hatefulness had on her and you don't deserve her friendship. Move on and just learn from your mistake.
2007-03-12 11:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be fair to everyone, you need to spend some time alone evaluating why you were such an A** to the first girl....or else you will end up in the same situation.
2007-03-12 11:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋