He has let her see him use the bathroom. I have heard (that even if it is the father) that it is a felony offense. It's considered lewd behavior in front of a minor. She is going for weekend visits.
2007-03-12 04:12:58 · 30 answers · asked by :o) 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Sleeping with daddy is innocent. My girls love snuggle time with dad. That's something the three of them started when I kicked them out of my bed to their own. They still have their special time, just not all night now. Using the bathroom, I myself am uncomfortable with this. Maybe because of the way I was raised, not sure. But I know my husband has never used the bathroom in front of our girls. Never changed in front of them, nothing. Even with them as babies, toddlers. I don't think it is acceptable, but everyone has their own opinion.
If you are uncomfortable with the bathroom thing, why don't you casually mention it to him. Maybe you can come to an agreement regarding it. But the sleeping thing, I would leave alone.
2007-03-12 04:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes it is ok for a 2 year old girl to sleep with her daddy. I have 3 girls that like to sleep with daddy anytime they get a chance.....BUT they have never seen him while using the bathroom or otherwise.(I do not believe that is a felony offense though) Some people are different in what they believe is acceptable. My dad when I was growing up didn't freak out if I seen him naked and there was absolutely nothing going on.
2007-03-12 11:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHe's just a toddler, give dad a break. SOme people are raised to cover up and some are raised that the body is a natural thing and, when in the presence of family, things don't need to be covered. At a certain age I'm sure he won't. I saw both my parents naked, does that make them bad? I grew up in the 70's. My dad isn't a perve. SOme people need to lighten up. Not everyone is a pervert. If she was 4 and taking baths with dad then I'd worry. Kids are curious. My daughter when she was 3 kept trying to see how my hubby was peeing, so he locked the door from that moment on. But that is his choice. Yes, there is a thin line, but but don't make it something it's not. Why is it okay for a child to sleep with mom(boy or girl), but not with dad? You were raised differently then her dad was. It's an offense now to spank your child. So, things have gotten out of hand I'd say. Get off the high horse, you aren't perfect and neither is he. It is harmless.
2007-03-12 11:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be worse if your ex (I'm assuming because you don't live together and she goes for weekend visits) made a big deal out of her seeing his penis. I don't think it's a felony offense because it is her father, and he's just using the bathroom, he's not asking her to touch it or anything. Children at this age are naturally curious and I think telling her that she's not allowed to look or that it's wrong will make her somehow feel that HER body is wrong or ugly. Body image is being shaped at this age, and how you react strongly effects the way they view themselves later, in my opinion.
I do think it's ok for a 2 year old girl to still sleep with her daddy, because I firmly believe in the benefits of cosleeping. I also think it's ok for a 2 year old boy to still sleep with his mommy. My 2 year old daughter still sleeps with me, she still needs that extra comfort. I can only imagine the need for comfort when shuttled between houses the way she is with visitation.
2007-03-12 11:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca C 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some may not like my answer, but
lighten up.
If your daughter comes home with reason for you to be concerned, like a red irritated vaginal area, and does not want to go back again, then I see your problem.
I have a 2 year old. She does not see daddy go potty, that probably should stop, but as far as sleeping with daddy...... sometimes it is the only comfort that a child has, especially when she is gone from home for the weekend, with a dad she barely knows.
If it were the other way around, would you let your 2 year old boy see you in the bathroom? Would you have a problem with him sleeping in your bed?
I know My 2 year old girl likes to take showers with me, and we always go "pee" together, this is how they learn, from example.
2007-03-12 11:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Renee B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sleeping with her daddy is fine. Going to the bathroom is iffy. At 2 it is okay I guess but I would stop that soon; however, he doesn't really have a choice if he is out in public and he is a single dad. She'll have to come in with him or stay out of the bathroom alone and that is a scarier thought.
Sounds like he is doing the best he can. SD
2007-03-12 11:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by SD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 year olds don't know there is anything perceived as "wrong" with this. Only when we put the idea in their head that it is bad do they question the behavior. As far as sleeping with Daddy....there is nothing wrong with it. They are comfy and feel safe. The bathroom experience I'm sure is just that...we have to go, lets go together. Especially if she is being potty trained. My children both have seen me and their father naked. The girl, as she grew older and started questioning why she was different than Daddy...that was when it stopped. It all is innocent in their eyes.
2007-03-12 11:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Kim*~ 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My girls are 4 and 6 and still crawl in bed with their daddy almost every night. LOL In fact, they often shove me over so they can snuggle with Daddy. So, no, I don't see a problem with that. It's normal for little girls to adore their daddies.
As for him letting her see him use the bathroom, is she potty training? That's listed as a way to help children get interested in potty training, witnessing parents using the restroom. But he should put a curb on it soon, so she doesn't think it's okay to see Daddy or other men naked as she gets older. My husband never let the girls see him, but he is very strange about the whole seeing people naked thing. He wouldn't even bathe them, because he thought it inappropriate. His brother is the same way. And heaven forbid they run around naked after their bath! But a child that age is not going to relate seeing her Daddy pee to anything sexual and it won't damage her at such a young age. Adn it could have been a case of him using the restroom, not latching the door properly, and her wandering in. If that's the case, he did good not to freak out, because you don't want to make her think there is something wrong with men's anatomy. Just make sure to discuss modesty with her in the future, as she learns right from wrong.
But I don't think this signals that there is molestation going on, sounds like a fairly typical dad to me. If there are other signs of possible molestation, you should get it checked out. But you shouldn't try to cut her off from her father just because he doesn't do everything exactly like you. As long as he's not harming her, she needs and deserves to have him around.
2007-03-12 11:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Both my son and daughter have both slept in the same bed with their daddy as well as watch him use the bathroom. At this age children don't have a sense of sexually and what is right and wrong in that department so they do not have any negative conotations to associate with these events.
However, if you have a feeling there is something more to if then you definately need to investigate. There is a lot to be said for gut feelings.
Good Luck!
2007-03-12 11:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by kmunis 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well i have heard that it is okay to shower with your kids until they are about 2 1/2 but it depends on who you are. a two year old is a little too young to get the concept of penis and vagina but they are very curious. my sons father gets uncomfortable when our son looks at his penis but we just try to explain that thats daddys body and its private. im not really sure if its okay for a little girl but boys are supposed to watch daddy go to the bathroom its how they learn to go themselves. the sleeping situation is normal. she's only 2. maybe it if makes you feel uncomfortable tell your ex not to let your daughter in the bathroom. don't try to make it a big deal just let him know it makes you uncomfortable.
2007-03-12 12:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by ProudMommy05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋