I suspected that my girlfriend was still talking to her ex, so I installed a keylogger on my computer to get her myspace password. Sure enough, she's been writing to him. She even told him she loved him and that things weren't over between them. Should I confront her about it? If I do, she'll now I was spying on her...
2007-03-12 04:08:31 · 23 answers · asked by JakeZula 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I aksed her why he was number 1 on her friends list, and she told me it was accidental and that it was over between them
2007-03-12 04:16:26 · update #1
She hasn't cheated on me... yet. Her ex lives in another state, and she moved here to live with me. I feel terribly guilty that I spied on her, but she lied to me and I can tell when she's lying. I know I sound like a psycho. I really hoped I wouldn't find anything, but now that I know, it's all I can think about. I can barely look her in the eye, and evey time she says I love you I wonder if it's just another lie.
2007-03-12 04:25:58 · update #2
No doubt she'll be pissed at you, but there is obviously no trust in your relationship for an obvious reason, so as far as I can see, the relationship is over anyway. Why stick around with someone you can't trust? So confront her and don't worry about wether she will be upset or not.
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You said that she hasn't cheated on you - yet. So tell me this: Depending on how you define cheating, wouldn't you say that telling someone else that she loves him and that things aren't over between them a huge breach of trust if not cheating? It sounds like the physical aspect of cheating is only a matter of time. You guys can't establish a solid foundation to your relationship by lying to each other and keeping secrets.
2007-03-12 04:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Bee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While you shouldn't have spied, now you know the unfortunate answer. If your girlfriend is a. talking to her ex, b. says she STILL LOVES HIM and c. that things weren't over for them, then it doesn't matter if she'll be mad because you should break up with her....she's cheating. (it doesn't matter how she feels about it because if she cared about being treated nicely, she should have considered how it would make you feel (and the consequences of her actions).
2007-03-12 11:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg she is is liar, and will always be one, THAT IS AWESOME DUDE, high five for the keylogger... i would just steal her car keys, casually dont look upset at all... then hand her these papers and walk out the door, do you two live together i assume? so hand her the papers of what she wrote, and then leave for awhile, make sure to take her keys so she cant leave andgo be with him. who cares if she knew you were spying, really, why the hell do you care she has been lying to you, if she even cares then she is an idiot, and this girl has probably even been with this guy who knows.
2007-03-12 11:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure I would go that far but I would tell her that you have concerns that she is indeed speaking to her X and you do not feel comfortable with her doing so. She might surprise you and tell the truth or just say she will stop. Who knows. Now if she denies it then you have to decide on how to proceed with her and the relationship
2007-03-12 11:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspected her enough in the first place to go snooping, then you already know something isn't right between the two of you. Yes, confront her, but she will probably continue to lie to you.
2007-03-12 11:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by ruthanneaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask her who it is that she wants more, You or her ex? If she is e-mailing him messages that she loves him then i would advise re-thinking your whole relationship... You can't be with two people. Make her choose.. but don't be surprised if it's not the answer you want. My bf. started talking to his ex again..(i read his txt messages) i know how distressing it can all be, especially if you really care for them. I confronted him, but didn't tell him i was spying. He chose me.
2007-03-12 11:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by filled_a_heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok yes of course you should confront her because she is lie n to you you 2s relationship was based on a complete lie she apparently doesnt care about you too much or she would not be chatting with her ex you2 should have a heart 2 heart talk w/eachother and forgive and forget or move on
2007-03-12 11:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..u should confront her about this..But u can say that u accidentally found her myspace open or something...or u can give it to her square on her face..But u should know that perhaps she was not cheating on u.Often old feelings remain for one's ex..it can be easily mistaken for love..but it's mostly care and concern.Dont be too harsh on her.good luck:)
2007-03-12 11:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump her lying a** . Copy some of her transcripts and give them to her as she is walking out your door with a boot print on her bootie.
2007-03-12 11:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk. Invasion of privacy. Inability to communicate.
What she is doing is inappropriate, but you are behaving worse than she is.
Yes, you'd better tell her and then hope and pray she doesn't file a suit against you.
2007-03-12 11:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋