It all started last June when my boss started showing special interst in me. To give you a little information his live in girlfreind also works with us. we have a very small staff and everyone is really close friends. Also my best friend of eight years got me the job and works with us as well.
i welcomed the new attenion at little to much and soon after we started sneaking around. He was the most amazing i ever had. Such Chemistry and at work it started to become obivous to everyone. My best friend knew about it he actully helped in the lies for us to spend a night together. They would tell my bosses girlfriend that they were having a guys night out, but in actuallity we would meet at a hotel.
To make a very long story short. He never left his girlfriend as he promised me which was his idea. He still wants the affair to continue. I've tried to get over him by getting a boyfriend but it hasn't worked. I'm still so in love with him. Now i have to see him with her everday.
2007-03-12 04:02:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not going to leave her, and that's what you get for messing around with another woman's man.
2007-03-12 04:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To be honestt with you, I would suggest that you call himn and make him to undrstand that you are not interested in the relationship any more. let him see reason with you that you can't hurt your fellow woman. If he still insist, then tender a resignation letter to him and change job with immediate effect or else you would get hurt at the end of the day which would lead to heart break. Also you should have let him understood right from day one that you aree not interested that you can't couple with such affairs. I would advice you to quit before it is too late.
2007-03-12 04:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by onoscity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are probably hurting because you seem to feel deeply for this man, but he is a louse. You may need to change your job in order not to see him, if it hurts you that much. A new boyfriend is just a way to try and get over the situation, but you need to give it up in your heart before you start a new relationship because it is just a crushing blow to the other party. Think about it, you know in your heart what the answer is, you have to find a way to get away from that situation.
2007-03-12 04:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by DOROTHY L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't complicated at all. He's is a selfish man who wants his cake and eat it too! He wasn't to loyal to you when he said he would leave his girlfriend and didn't. He used you for what he wanted, now you have to face him everyday at work. He made you believe what he said about leaving the other girl and you trusted him. By doing this he made a fool out of you and has left you on the short end of the stick. I think you should confront his girlfriend and tell her what he promised you. She has a right to know what kind of a "Snake In The Grass He Is" when it comes to women! Guys like this make me sick, who do they think they are! Cocoa
2007-03-12 04:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the backfire when you jumped into something you knew was wrong. If he wasn't proper to begin with and left his gf, then you shouldn't have expected for him to tell you the truth. As for how you feel now, that just sucks - but what can you do- just realize that it's in the past and think of how much better off you are that you don't have to be apart of his treacherous life anymore.
2007-03-12 04:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learned one of life's rules the hard way and that is don't date someone you work with. He used your emotions to get into your pants and you fell for it. Best thing to do is get over it and learn your lesson and eventually someone else will come by. If he keeps after you just tell him your done with it and now its all business and that's it. You might even have to find another job but at least you learned your lesson right?
2007-03-12 04:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would quit and look for another job. If anyone asks then you will just say that I couldn't handle the environment and wanted a change in scenery. Also, break of any contact with your boss. It wasn't right for your friend to lie for you. have you ever thought about getting with your friend. in my experiance that when someone lies for you like that it just means that they also have the hots for you.
2007-03-12 04:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by bcline5983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time for you to find a new job. If you don't have to see them together everyday it will be easier to move on. He wants his cake and eat too. He can't have both. I feel bad that he used you like that. Just try to avoid jerks like that in the future. The world is full of people like that and also full of good-hearted souls that actually want to believe that people are telling them the truth.
2007-03-12 04:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boss is having his cake and eating it too. It's obvious that he lied to you, so you just need to go find your own boyfriend. It's never a good idea to mix business with pleasure; consider this a lesson learned. You also need to stop the affair with your boss! If he fires you, then sue him for sexual harassment!
2007-03-12 04:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, this is probably not what you want to hear, but this is not going to go anywhere. He has a girlfriend, whom he is not going to leave, so my advice to you is to leave the situation alone and ignore him as much as possible, and I will even go as far as saying change jobs so that you don't have to see him everyday.
2007-03-12 04:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by Queen Bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like bridget jones! Look for a new job, if you dont want one, then try finding someone else, go out without that group more, and time will pass and you will get over him
2007-03-12 04:07:25 · answer #11 · answered by alissa4boo@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋