My boyfriend is getting to the point that he is almost paranoid. We moved in together back in November and we have been exclusive for almost a year now. Over the past week I have noticed some of his tendencies becoming more profound. He has always been a little possesive and over protective but it hasn't been this bad. For example, he wanted to know where I went for lunch one day, how long I had been there, and what time I got back to work. I have been kind of busy lately with a wedding I'm planning, and he thinks I am purposely trying to avoid him. He even went through my car the other day. I feel like I go through an interrogation process when I get home everyday. I love him with all of my heart and I'm not going anywhere. I just have been really busy lately, it doesn't mean I don't want to be with him. He does this, everytime I get really busy at work, he starts thinking I want to break up. Why is this? What can I do to make him believe that he is the one I want?
2007-03-12 04:00:11 · 4 answers · asked by stefanisky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did he have an ex that cheated? or did he cheat in the past , or is he currently cheating? usually when someone is lying or has been lied to or has lied in the past and gotten away with it, it makes someone paranoid about everything their now partner is doing. like when i was lying to my wife
2007-03-12 04:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very insecure in the relationship. Try talking to him about it and tell him what you just told us. Maybe he doesn't realize how crazy he is being and just needs to hear it. Or if he really does have issues, he needs to get some counseling and change his behavior or you are in for a miserable time of it. I dated someone 3 years who completely changed my life around, made me stop going to the gym, stop spending so much time with my family, more with him to prove I cared. It took me a little while to realize it, but it's not a normal relationship. You have to be able to do your thing too. Especially when it is work related!
2007-03-12 11:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big Fat Red Flag Alert!
Jealousy is a big sign of potential abuse, and accusations is more often than not a sign that he is guilty of the same thing.
Get out and save yourself. He will only get worse. No amount of your love will make it better.
2007-03-12 11:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that he's been played in the past so he thinks that you are going to do the same thing
he could be very much in love with you and have some insecurities and is afraid that your going to leave him
he could be guilty of what it is he's accusing you of
or he could just be psycho
just give him timing talk to him about it
2007-03-12 11:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋