How to lose a nerd?.......
This guy in my class is getting really annoying. He keeps sending me letters, notes, even IM conversations between him and his friend about me! He's written things like "I really like that multi-color pinkish sweater you have, you should wear it more often," and "I've finally found someone of my own species!" yeah RIGHT. He's really weirding me out......and then he tried to get my little brother to deliver me a message, my brother told him to get lost and stay away from me. Then he comes up to me and is all mad that I told my brother about "us," like half the school doesn't already know! and US, excuse me???? I already tried to tell him that I didn't like him, which totally didn't work......
So, I need some way of getting that through his head. And he's really sensitive........so I can't be that harsh, you know? But how do I make him understand that, without hurting his feelings too much? help??
2007-03-12 03:51:31 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You want me to come over there and beat him up...
2007-03-12 09:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by leprechaun3833 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, you're going to have to be blunt and set him straight. he somehow thinks you are into him or are his girlfriend. the longer he thinks that, the more difficult it will be to get rid of him. if you wanna be his friend (doesn't seem possible on his part), just tell him you see him as nothing more than that. when he asks if it might be something more later, say no cuz he is just not your type. let him stew for a while, cuz he will need time to get over what he thought he had.
if you are so freaked about the situation, set it in his head that that is all it ever was, in his head. tell him you have no romantic feelings for him and set him on his way. the sooner you do this, the better. trust me. last thing you want is an unwanted puppy following your every move.
have a nice week off
2007-03-12 04:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by gonzo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's so convinced he's your boyfriend, even though you're not his girlfriend, I would suggest "breaking up" with him. It's probably the only way to really get rid of him. If that doesn't work say "look. I have never said I was your girlfriend. I don't want to be your girlfriend. You are harassing me and I need you to leave me alone from now on, or I am telling an adult. Do you understand??"
2007-03-12 03:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds creepy. I would be less worried about his feelings and more worried about your safety. It sounds as if he could be using his sensitivity to manipulate you so you won't say anything harsh. In actuality, he is showing the early signs of a stalker. His behavior will get more creepy if something is not done now!
Talk to your parents and talk to your school counselor. This guy needs to be told that he is to leave you alone.
2007-03-12 03:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man.Ive been in this situation before.What I had to do was get around a lot of guy friends and stay constantly smiling when im with them.Then get one of them to go up to him ,if he gets too close ,and tell him to back off.He will be intimidated by them.As for the iming, you could always do that eye thing.On the top left of your buddylist,itll say that ur signed off,but your still on.Good luck!
2007-03-12 03:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by legallybrunette91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds creepy----i know he has feelings but harshness may be the only thing that will work since all else has failed thus far
maybe try gettingyour school counselor involved or if they have peer mediation (which will only embarrass him)---sounds like this guy needs a good dose of what i like to call the "restraining order"
2007-03-12 03:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometymes u just have 2 b cruel . and he sounds like that kinda hard case that just needs a shock .so , let him no how u feel . go ahead don't be afraid 2 cuss him out . n mabe afta a while he'll start feelin the same bout u .
that's what i did 2 1 freako and guess what ? he ain't bugged me since
2007-03-12 03:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a note! Tell him how you feel using simple words that he can understand. Tell him that you are fine being friends, but that you have no romantic feelings for him. Tell him to stop sending you letters, notes, etc.
2007-03-12 03:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a picture of you and a guy and be like look at this picture of me and whoever aren't we so cute together....or talk to one of your girlfriends in front of him about a date you just had with a guy and all the fun you had he'll get the hint {all is fair in love and war}
2007-03-12 03:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in person that you need your space and your not ready for a bf. It works for me all the time trust me.I f he doesn't understand than you might try telling him that your going to speak to your parents or his about your feelings.
2007-03-12 03:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by cloclo0688 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a PPO (Personal Protection Order)!!!!! That is called a stalker handle it quickly before he hurts you!
2007-03-12 03:55:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋