haha, my bf asked me to ask this one... He's thinking about it and really nervous, but is curious what other people think since he's not sure its going to happen...
2007-03-12 03:44:28 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
thats quite a guy darlin, thats the way it should be done, hang on to him, not too many like hime out there.
2007-03-12 03:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Billie R 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It shouldn't matter what our opinions are. Would YOU be tickled if he does it? Do you think your dad would appreciate him asking permission to marry you?
If one or both are yes, then by all means he would win brownie points for asking permission.
My boyfriend asked my dad permission. Dad said "Now why would you want to do that?" It was all good and fun and my boyfriend proposed to me and I said yes. I was absolutely tickled when he told me he talked to my dad and asked permission.
What do you mean "he's not sure its going to happen"? If he thinks they'll say no, then have it be more of a "I'm marrying your daughter and I hope I have your blessing" rather than a "I would like to marry your daughter" that way he knows whether he blesses it or not he is asking you to marry him.
2007-03-12 04:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its wonderful, maybe it is old-fashioned, but it is a sign of respect for a loved-ones family....no your not his posession to give like some people will bring up, but you are his daughter and that holds a special place in his heart and I know he would appreciate being asked if he would mind! My fiance asked my dad and knew that he darn sure better cuz me and my dad are SUPER close and I know it meant a lot to both of them for different reasons, and I don't know if I could go through with it all if I didn't know that my dad approved...Derrick just said, so hey-ya mind if me and ashlie get married? and that was it, and it made my dad feel a lot better----so tell him to go for it, it may be nerve racking, but its the best way to go! good luck!
2007-03-12 05:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading the answers to this question, it makes me feel good to see how many people agree with the concept of respect. In today's world, too many people are becoming self-centered, and no longer see respect as a valued personality trait.
You aren't necessarily required to follow their answer, but you should honor your elders. They have more experience at life than you, and if they say yes, it shows they perceive the marriage as something which has a good chance of working. If they say no, whether you follow their advice, or not, you might just step back and ask yourself why you got that response.
2007-03-12 04:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your man doesn't need to ask your parents permission to marry you, assuming you are a grown woman. What is appropriate is if he asks your parents for their blessing. Your parents will respect him so much more if he did that. That will so get him on their good side. It's old fashioned etiquette.
2007-03-12 03:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely think this should be done prior to proposing to the girl, it's a sign of respect. I think it's special too, I know when my fiance asked my father before proposing my father was so reasurring, as it can be very nerve racking asking her and the father, my fiance was welcomed to the family with open arms and i think my dad was really honored that my fiance asked him first.
2007-03-12 07:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cold In Canada 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that its old fashion and sweet. It makes him look good in your fathers eyes, and in the good books with him. You want him to be close to your dad so if he askes your pa than its a good start, your father will love it and think that it was the right thing to do. Its a bit scary for him to go ask but in the long run he will be happy that he did.
2007-03-12 05:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the appropriate thing to do....I don't think he needs to really ask them though... When my husband did this with my parents, he pretty much just told them of his intentions and showed them the ring. my dad had a few choice things to say...and then he cried!!! So he definitely should do it. It always makes for a good story later , too.
2007-03-12 03:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the girl. My fiance asked my parents, but I'm super tight with my family. He knew that I would appreciate the gesture to show that he valued their imput. If someone isn't as close to their parents, It doesn't seem necessary. A lot of people think its out dated, but if it is something that is important to the girl, I say a little tradition never hurt anyone.
2007-03-12 04:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
In my case, my religion specifies I can't get married without the permission of my parents. Whether or not my boyfriend asks my parents before he asks me officially doesn't matter in my opinion.
Personally, either way is sweet. I'm supposing however, that we'll ask my parents together, as opposed to him asking (one against two).
2007-03-12 04:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Evoo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my husband did this, and managed to keep it a secret, which is amazing in my family. I appreciated it and wasn't insulted at all. I knew we would eventually get married and I emphasized this, especially to my dad. He had a hard time letting me go. But I told him that when the question was asked, that he better behave himself or he would incur my wrath. LOL.
My husband was a little nervous, but his love for me overcame the nervousness.
2007-03-12 05:09:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋