one of my ex best mates, has just rejected all her mates for her bf. she even wants to move to another country with him & said 'what have i got to stay for?' shes not the only friend ive had that felt i no longer existed as soon as she got a bf. my social life is dwindling as my mates get bfs, its so annoying! i just dont want a bf at the moment, more interested in having fun, with my friends but im begining to think i should just settle 4 a boy i dont even like & fit in with every1 else.
2007-03-12 03:42:07 · 18 answers · asked by helen b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is just something that happens as you get older. Friends find their mates and move on with life. It's fine if you are not ready yet...don't settle to fit in with them. That's not a reason. You will meet knew friends (at work/school/gym) to do things with. No one can expect their friends to stay in the same state/country/city just to remain your friend. You just be happy for them that they found what they are looking for. It doesn't mean she won't speak to you after she moves. But if she is happy with him and he is right for her, she has every right to follow him where ever and to think that you would be happy for her! Try not to see it has a betrayal to your friendship, look at it that now you'll have a new place to go visit and have a place to stay! Be happy for her!
2007-03-12 03:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some woman are that pathetic that they think that as soon as they fall in love their friends dont matter.
It doesnt matter to them that these friends have been there for them through thick and thin and they will probably expect these friends to be there for them when they find out the 'love of their life' has been sh*gging about behind their backs.
Love isnt worth dumping your friends for and true friends never do this. And dont settle for any bloke because your friends are being pathetic.
Make some new friends and take up a new hobby etc this will be a good way to make new friends - and then when your old friends call you can say 'sorry im busy with my new friends who dont drop me as soon as a boy comes along'
Good luck
2007-03-12 11:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very frustrating part of your life... Unfortunatly, as we get older, our needs change. And as adults, with partners/husbands/children, there is less time for friends. i always make sure i meet up with my girlfriends once a month... its not like we all used to be as i have 2 kids and they are now pregnant, but we are still there for each other when we need us to be... But don't rush into a relationship just because they have... join a new club or change pubs and meet some new freinds... You will soon re-settle to a life that meets your needs...
Good luck and don't let em grind you down! xx
2007-03-12 10:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by jenny w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
erm im not sure y all girls do it i had reasons thou my so called best mate was a liar and a complete ***** she used me as a taxi borrowed money i never got bk my bf told me hundreds of times shes usin u and i didnt listen when i finally realised she was usin me is wen she told the police i had robbed a house what she had actually robbed yeah she was a great friend .......... i'll choose my bf over all my friends now hes my soulmate! i'd just let her get on n be happy for her she's in love but just promise to be there when sumthing goes wrong thats a true mate x x
2007-03-12 11:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's mean that she said she had nothing to stay for, but she probably thinks you are good enough m8 2 understand her feelings for her boyfriend
2007-03-12 11:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by ωєℓѕн 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asking "y do girls put bfs before m8s" is like asking "why do girls put their husbands before their friends". Seriously, you're supposed to love your husband more than your friends. It's NORMAL. When you get married, do you want to be first in your husbands love life? Or do you want him to love his friends more than he loves you? i thought so. Dont force yourself to do something you're not happy doing. the right one will come along soon enough.
2007-03-12 10:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do something you don't want to....i am sort of in the same situation as you...all my friends have bfs and i fort that i was gettin left out...and my best friend started to change...you see....he is a 'chav' and she is a 'goth'...&& i noticed that she was listenin to rave && mc n started wearin 'chavy' stuff....so i fort i was gunna lose her so i talked to her about it and she said that no bf will ever change our relationship as friends...you come first...if he made me choose i'd choose you every time....&& our relationship has become stronger after that.....i suggest you do the same....otherwise you might lose them
2007-03-12 12:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you dont mention your age but it sounds like your mate is ready to commit dont worry join a club and soon you will widen your circle of friends
2007-03-12 10:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
find yourself new friends, bfs come and go but friends are forever....saying that I don't see my friends as much as i used to cos we've both got boyfriends
2007-03-12 10:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ashley your a wanka MATE
2007-03-12 10:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋