I've been with the same guy 4 9mos. now & we aren't on the same page. He wants to keep seeing other women & I want to committ. However, we still have very deep feelings for one another & sometimes I get on his nerves about him ignoring me while he's on the phone with other women. I'm always telling him how I feel about the situation & now he's at the point where he said he's not even going to answer my calls anymore because he doesn't want the conversation to go in that direction. He told me that his life is stressful enough without me always burdening him with my feelings he said that he doesn't want to hear it anymore. He understands where I'm at but he still wants to talk to other women & I need to learn how to deal with it. He said I was delusional, that he's not going to change. So what can I do to be less emotional & not always bring up how I feel about the situation?
2007-03-12 03:28:53 · 5 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, you don't deserve that. Move on and be with someone who is all about you, ready to commit to you and only you. He is telling you quite clearly that he is not going to change. From what you are saying, you are not willing to put up with it, so stand your ground, and stop letting him run all over you and disrespect you. You don't need him, there are other fish in the sea.
2007-03-12 03:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Bee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you like him, I would keep seeing him but start going out with other people too. Don't push him for a relationship since he has already told you he wasn't ready. Until he is, it won't happen, it will just drive him away. You need to start doing the same thing, you may meet the one who wants the real relationship, or you never know, he may change his mind at some point and decide it was you he wanted all along. At least get yourself out there and have some fun. You shouldn't be home worrying about him when you know what he is doing. Do the same, you'll end up calling him less and he may start wondering where you are. Once he knows you are seeing other people too, he may change his mind. But don't you be the one to bring it up...let him! He already knows how you feel...he has to be the one to make the decision now. Good luck!
2007-03-12 03:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE DOESN'T WANT YOU!!!!! Get out of that relationship! GEEZ...... Cant you see you're just another one of the ladies in his game? Save yourself the heartache, embarassment and pain of trying to get close with him when all he wants to be a a player. He said he wont change and he really wont and why would you wanna put up with his behavior and be a doormat??
2007-03-12 03:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he cares very much, dump him like last week's paper and find yourself a new man who will appreacite you for who you are.
2007-03-12 03:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by I MISS YOU! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very easy --- tell him to get lost -- he does not care for you --- just cut your losses and move on --- he is not worth the time you spend with him ---- best wishes
2007-03-12 03:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋