He is not disrespectful of my culture and tradition, just that he don't see the point that it means so much to me for him to blend in the wedding nicely with the right groom and bride attire. Is that to much to ask from him?
This relate to what i asked earlier why I need to wear tradition gown he dont?
2007-03-12 03:25:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hi,
When I answered the other question you asked, I said he was being disrespectful of your customs, and I still believe that. I live in Taiwan with my wife, and if I were to do anything that your boyfriend is doing, it would be disrespectful. He has to know that customs are important and cannot be changed to suit him, whether he thinks it's okay or not. This is going to look REALLY bad in your parents eyes. They are going to see him as disrespectful of their customs and may even change their mind about you marrying him. This man must learn that he is the one who is being blessed by being allowed to marry you. A man must learn that to have a woman love him is the greatest gift he could ever ask. He must therefore do anything to make that woman feel loved, too.
2007-03-12 03:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a tradition and he has a tradition...you need to respect his too!! I think you should wear your traditional wedding attire, and he should wear his traditional wedding attire. It isn't fair for you to tell him he has to follow your tradition when he has his own... So I think you should each wear your own thing and incorporate both marriage cermonies into one so you both can have what you want. Combining two people is never easy...let alone when different cultures and traditions are involved... It seems to me that you are upset because he won't go along with your tradition...but you won't go along with his either...there needs to be a compromise somewhere! If you can't decide on the wedding, how are you going to decide on things the rest of your life?
2007-03-12 03:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That respect works both ways. Why should he wear the clothing of your culture? You should both be acceptable of the other person's choice of clothing.
Yes, that is too much to ask of him. Marriage is for both partners. It isn't always going to be 50-50, but work at trying to make it that way. That means compromise and the wedding is where it starts.
Talk to him and when he answers...listen. Stop trying to sway him to your "side." And keep the parents out of the conversation.
2007-03-12 03:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your first major lesson in compromise. What are his views on the wedding and try your best to blend each others taste together. If he is unwilling to compromise with you concerning this then maybe you need to look at your relationship a bit closer. Because this is the start, your whole marriage will be based on when to let it go and when to stand you ground. Marriage and compromising goes hand in hand.
2007-03-12 03:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Shawnese D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truley want him to understand then you must talk to him and reason things out. you two will be together after you are married. explain to him in detail how much this would mean to you that he does it. blessed be
2007-03-12 03:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by Majikninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋