How can i put my 1 yr old in daycare?

Question

I am unable to trust watching my son. I can not put him in daycare. I put my daughter in daycare and she was neglected. Both my children are or was breastfeed. I also worked at the daycare that i had my daughter in. Is there something wrong with me not being or feeling safe with daycares?

Answer 1

Since more than ten hours a week separation from mommy causes very real and lasting damage to children in social, physical, intellectual, and emotional aspects of their personality, it is considering day care to be okay which indicates there is something terribly wrong with a mom's intuition.

Even high quality day care produces these bad results in children, because the problem is separation from mommy. No child under 5 should have to endure separation of any significant length of time from mommy. It's very painful for them. And if they're under 3, it messes them up.

Our society is filling up with people who cut themselves, people who have sex indiscriminately, people who feel empty and lonely, people who are not bonded well to anyone. And one of the biggest reasons is people being willing to put their kids in day care.

Human infants are primates, and like all primates, they evolved to need their mothers 24/7 for years to develop properly.

Answer 2

I see all the answers are saying keep your kid out of daycare... well... if you do not depend on a second income or you have a parent that can watch your kid that is wonderful. Some of us are not so lucky...

If you MUST put you child in daycare check them out with the state, drop in unannounced to see how they are treating the kids, ask for the adult to child ratio. You state has guidelines about what is acceptable. Call health and human services or the child protection service in your state to find out the ratio. When you do find a daycare you think you might consider, contact the BBB. See if anyone has complained and what those complaints are.

Something else you might consider to help with anxiety... alot of daycares now have secure networks that feed live video into a secure site so you can watch your kid all day long. You can do what you need to do, but still be sure your child is being cared for.
Daycares are like doctors - someone had to graduate last
(They are not all equal)

Answer 3

You are right to be concerned about putting your baby in daycare. Even the best run, safest facilities are nowhere near what a young child needs. They need to be with a parent who loves them. Not someone who is being paid to care for them. Do what ever you can to stay home with your child. You, and your child will never regret it. Good luck.

Answer 4

Pls don't put your 1 year old in Day care.If you observe carefully ,every day there is some change in infants and the experience of bringing up the child is once in life time experience.There may be some hardships sometimes,but through this we learn how to be Patient.
I had the most wonderful feeling and experiences in bringing up my infant .Day cares will never be able to substuite a mother.Suppose the infant falls , a caress by mother will soothe it ,can a day care provide this soothe.Well I can go writing about this,but bottomline is never put your 1 year child in day care ,atleast not yet.

Answer 5

I think a good mom doesn't send her kids to daycare. My mom watches the little one we have. Kids are sick all of the time when they are in daycare. Plus should a child get hurt at daycare, you never really know what happened. We started sending ours to daycare at about a year and she came home with pink eye, thats when I said no more.

Answer 6

please attend to your children's needs as much as possible..Yes you maybe a busy parent but a parent's touch is still the best for your child

Answer 7

No, you're cautious....1 is so little, it's hard...you want to be their soul protector!!!