I know my mother has AIDS?

Question

I've known 4 2yrs now. She doesn't know that I know. My cousin was talking about it one day. The way she was talkin about it was like it wasn't a big thing. I never did understand how she can just tell me something like that about my mother and not have sympathy. I don't know what to do. sometimes I forget about it but than it's times where I want to turn to someone and talk about it. I have no one I can talk to about this. I wish I can just comfront her and let her know that I know. By looking at her you wouldn't even think she has it. She lives life like theres no tomorrow. what should I do. Should I tell her I know, or should I just wait until she feels she's ready to talk about it?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom, but there are new treatments available now. I would either talk to your mom, or write her a letter. Tell her you love her no matter what and will always be there for her, just as she has been for you. Tell her what you heard your cousin say, and that you feel you are mature enough to know and deal with this. Hopefully, this will open up the communication lines between you and your mom. As for your cousin having no sympathy, that's too bad, for they may need it in return someday.

Answer 2

first of all it really wasn't your cousins place to tell you about it. There could be a number of reasons your mom hasn't told you about it. If i were you i would ask her, but not in a blunt way. I would start the conversation as "mom, my cousin told me something a few years ago that has really been bugging me lately..." and the go from there. Because you don't know if your cousin was lying about it, so you don't want to ask her straight out why she hasn't told you unless you verify that its fact.

Answer 3

perhaps your cousin wasn't showing a lack of sympathy, could it have been acceptance? acceptance that a family member has AIDS, but that she is the same person as she always was. some people don't need, or want, sympathy. they just want you to remember that they are the same person as before and all they need, or want, is your continuing acceptance and love, irrespective of any problem or disease that has now become part of their being.

Answer 4

just let your mom know that you know about her illness.Eventually your mom will go down hill.so make the best of things now why you can.I had 3 family members die from Aids and it was very stressful.See if you can start seeing a psychiatrist.I have one I am not crazy but i'm like you I have No one I can talk to .It really helps.I laugh,smile cry,scream,etc.but it helps.you have to be strong no matter what

Answer 5

Absolutley tell her!!!! You need each other, what a relief for both of you to be able to discuss it openly. She is probably trying to protect you. If you approach her she may deny the truth initially out of shock that you know. If she has kept this from you for 2 years, she has worked very hard to keep it from you. Perhaps she is afraid of losing you or causing you pain.

Answer 6

Honey, I'm so sorry. Thank goodness there's treatment now.
See, I think a secret like this causes a LOT of extra stress.
You should confront her, before you both have a situation that blows up in your face b/c of this.
Good luck.

Answer 7

I would let her know that you know, but not make a big production about it. Just let her know that if she wants to talk about it, you are there.

Answer 8

I think you should tell her that you know about her having AIDS. I just believe that you should be honest with your mom.

Answer 9

Just be there and wait until she is ready.