what should i do if me and my gf is always arguing, even with simple things, but i'm the one who is keeping my patience, and i dont want 2 leave her and i dont even want her 2 leave me, dis girl knows that she's kinda abusing me, but what should i say,to her that will not offend her???
2007-03-12 03:08:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she knows what she's doing and isn't stopping then she obviously don't care about you.
This relationship is a power struggle for her, and all she wants is to be superior.
If she truly cares about you, she would care about how she's making you feel. She would not be making the decision to abuse you like this.
2007-03-12 03:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by coastergirl189 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her know how you feel about the arguing. Relationships are built on trust and communication....if you can't talk things through, it's not going to work in the long run. Find out if she has other issues going on in life (maybe at work/school/family/where ever) and she is actually just taking them out on you. That way, once you are aware what's going on with her, she will feel free to discuss things with you as well and hopefully not argue over simple things. If you can't talk through it, even though it may be a hard thing to do, you shouldn't stay in a relationship where there is no communication and constant arguing. It's not going to work and you'll get hurt more in the long run by hanging in the situation.
2007-03-12 03:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your arguing can possibly be resolved by compromise and communication. You both need to sit down without yelling and arguing. Let her know at the beginning of the conversation that neither one of you will raise your voice and you will let each other finish your statements before the other person chimes in.
The simple things need to be analyzed. If she has a problem with something you're doing let her know you are willing to COMPROMISE with a problem that you have with her. You may be the one with patience but in order for her to change you have to show her that you're willing to make things work if she is.
Also what exactly do you mean by her 'abusing' you. If she's saying things to bring you down instead of building you up then it's already over.
2007-03-12 03:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by Ladee69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and offend her. Tell her you don't like the way she treats you and it's damaging your relationship. Constant arguing may also be a hint that the relationship should end, but do talk with her first. You might want to check out some therapy for couples. A professional may be able to help, especially if you both want the relationship to continue.
2007-03-12 03:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by Suzie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to consider some couples therapy. Me and my GF went thru this and it helped. It boils down to communication. You need to tell her what is bothering you and not hold it in. If she refuses to discuss the issues or quit abusing you you need to find someone that you can get along with. However, your arguing will NEVER go away, it may get somewhat better but won't go away. You need to consider that.
2007-03-12 03:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ken R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can only change when she admits that she is wrong. Nothing you say or do can change her. If you are always arguing it means you two are not compatible. It's wrong for any one to engage in an abusive relationship.
2007-03-12 03:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to say "babe, we've been arguing alot lately and i think we need to sit and discuse the reason that we keep disagreeing on everything." Then when you guys talk let her know that you don't want to be apart and that you want to make it work, then figure out your guys main pet peeves and different views on things and come to a nice compromise!
2007-03-12 03:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that this maybe the first sign of love you will not offend her by sitting down and talk she would probably respect you a lot more tell her how you are feeling it may hurt at first but she needs to no chan
2007-03-12 03:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if you deserve the way she's treating you. You say she knows what she's doing; do you really want to be with someone who knowingly mistreats you?
Think long and hard about this, then get the respect you deserve, whether it be with her or someone else.
2007-03-12 03:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF SHE HAS THAT TYPE OF ATTITUDE THEN SHE IS GOING TO END UP OFFENDED ANYWAYS SO JUST GO STRAIGHT TO THE THE POINT AND TELL HER EXACTLY WHAT YOU SAID, THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE HER BUT THAT HER ATTITUDE NEEDS TO CHANGE.
2007-03-12 03:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by D.L.G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋