I've been with my girlfriend for over 1 year. I want to tell her I love her. I'm scared that if I do tell her, she might not say it back. I was originally planning for her to say it to me then I will say it. I'm also scared that if I wait too long and she never says it 1st, she might think I'm not in love with her and not interested with her even though I am in love with her. So, how can I tell her "I love you?"
2007-03-12 03:08:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you love her so much that it doesn't matter if she doesn't say it back to you?
Do you love her so much that if it was the best thing in the world for her to marry someone else you would be happy for her?
If your love is conditional (and I don't actually think it is), then you might really just have to take a good look at it to ask - is it really love?
I think you are just afraid of the rejection.
Tell her you love her.
If you never tell her, she will never know. If she doesn't love you, you would be best to know it now.
2007-03-12 03:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling she is having the same problem. Not always is it necessary for the girl to respond saying I love you too. How about, taking her out to a nice quiet place for walk ( I don't know what age group you are both in) from your question I will assume you are teenagers). So after you have gone to a movie or someplace take a nice quiet walk by the water, or a park and tell her that you think you are falling for her. Leave out the word love. See what happens??
I am only giving you hypothetical situations. You have to be creative when and where you say "I think I am falling for you".
Of course if you are in your twenties, then you can make it more elaborate, at a nice romantic restaurant.
2007-03-12 10:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she probable hasn't said it yet, b/c most girls prefer if the guy says it first! Just say "Babe we've been together for a year know and I am and have been in love with you, i really care about you and want to be with you for a long time down the road, and i feel like you need to know that i really do love you! And I was wondering if you felt the same why, or if you need somemore time to develop those feelings."
And let her know that even if she doesn't quite yet love you, that you will give her the time!
2007-03-12 10:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you love her to me, it sounds like you are playing childish games. How can you "plan" for her to say it first? You have no control over her. If you are waiting for her and she's waiting for you, then you both are missing the boat. Perhaps you need to just concentrate on being with her, not so much about being in love. If/when you fall in love, you'll know it and you won't care who you tell or who says it first. Good luck.
2007-03-12 10:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't broken up with you, she has to care enough to stay with you. So get that courage mode going and tell her. She may be waiting for you to do so, and if you wait any longer, she may ditch you. There's too many eligible guys out there, so don't let her get away. If she tells you that she doesn't love you, well, you've been together a year, so as difficult as it may be, you should probably go your own way.
2007-03-12 10:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her anyway, that way she knows how you feel and if she isn't ready to say it back, that is okay you cant be mad at her for that. That way you have it off your chest and out in the open and when she is ready to say it, it will mean so much more. You shouldn't push someone into saying that they love you back if they aren't ready. So make sure you tell her that if she isn't ready to say she loves you too that it is okay.
2007-03-12 10:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by married&lovinit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you honestly feel it, go for it. If you say it first it will be a lot more meaningful to her. Sometime girls just wait for guys to make the next move. Tell her how you feel, and even though she may not return it right away, it will come with time.
2007-03-12 10:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying I love you don't need all that drama
just be casual and tell her that you are bless that you have found her to love.don't expect the earth to move just because you expressed love for her. Have faith in your time together and start communicating, I say that because it's been a year and your having trouble expressing love
2007-03-12 10:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by TBONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She mite be waitin fo u to say it first, an if its been over a year that uv been together then its likely she'l feel the same! I say meet up with her an jus tell her how she makes u feel!
PeAcE
2007-03-12 10:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by PeAcE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's waiting for YOU. in a romantic spot kiss her lightly and say "I love you" but don't wait for an answer, do something to distract her answer in whatever activity or spot you are in--- kiss her again, longer this time.
2007-03-12 10:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by curry_lover4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋