See i have been talking to this guy on the internet for over a year now he is in the national guard and right now they are over in Iraq well my thing is that when he gets to come home for a couple of weeks he wants me to come up to wisconsin to see him and well I was wondering if u think that long distance relationships work or not. I mean i live in North Carolina and he lives in Wisconsin. He wants me to move up there when he gets out of the military next year. I really do love him and he says that he loves me and that we can make it work but i don't know. Do u think it willl work or am i just wasting my time? I really do like him alot.
2007-03-12 03:04:23 · 21 answers · asked by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to spend some physical time together. Get to know each other on a physical level, in other words in person before making a big life decision. Trust me when you are only seeing a small part of your mans everyday life and that is filtered thru his words on the internet. They can work but it will take time and lots of work,
2007-03-12 03:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ken R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most online relationship do not work out, unless there are ways you can see each other more then 1 time a week. I mean I know you might like him a lot and he might like you a lot, but do you honestly think you can wait another year to see each other every day? There are always trust issue with long distance relationships. My boyfrind and I fight almost every day because we have trust issues and we've been going out for 16 months and he only lives 20 minutes away. I'm not saying you're going to have trust issues now because he is over in Iraq, but what if he comes back and things are different? Maybe you should meet him in person and hang out for a week and see how that goes. If you still feel the same about everything or even greater then go for it and stick to the guy. If things are different back out.
2007-03-12 10:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is zero security in online relationships. I had a conversation with a retired police officer online this week and we concluded there was no way he could prove his credentials online, and even if he could that did not prove his credentials as a competent personality.
There was no emotion, it was pure math. We were not interested in each other rather the simple concept of trust when it comes to online discussion was up for debate.
Likewise I had a similar discussion with a retired RN again there was no way to trust her credentials either not even at a very innocuous and fundamental level.
So it was concluded to delve any deeper than a simple discussion is to risk your personal safety to a degree that is not worthy of anyone's trust based on technology as it stands today.
What bothers me is that so many online discussions seek professional advice and there are those who have not been officially certified who answers these questions posing as professionals.
How can one know if in fact these posers are professionals, RNS, police officers and or lawyers ? And yet I am sure there are those who would act on medical and or legal advice thinking they have just received an academic service inspite of all the tos warnings.
Perhaps someday Questions and Answers can find a work around for those retired online experts. Until then its all hear say and no more. Sad because I am sure there are many who sincerely donate their time and Yahoo should make that work in the least for the sheer hours these people have earned Yahoo's respect.
In short stay away from blind relationships and find someone in your area to have real time with.
Identity theft is rapid on the net, the quickest way for someone to assume your personality is to have an online relationship with you over time as you reveal all your characterists and personality traits.
The source below is such an example of such a person potentially lookinq for the next vulnerable victim online:
2007-03-12 10:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by lightwayvez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online relationships may or may not work out. It all depends on the person you've struck up a friendship with. If you REALLY like him, then you should go meet him. Spend some time with him in the 'real world' (face to face) and if you like him for what he really is, then you can move. If you feel its not worth it, then forget about him. Its important to give him achance, so just go meet him in Wisconsin, stay there for a day or two.
2007-03-12 10:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do work if your not far from each other and have the possibility to meet up. Otherwise it is just going to cause lots of pain and disappointment. They can work even if it's long distance, but such cases are exceptions. So it all depends on how strong the feelings are and if both people know what they want.
2007-03-12 10:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by miracle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships don't work. And there is no such thing as making a relationship work...... The Internet dating thing can be misleading....Waiting for him to get out of the military is risking it....He may be a different person than when you first talked to him........Time is too important....
2007-03-12 10:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by country gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats a pretty long relationship. I dont see why not, but I do recommend you two get to know each other for a while in person. But it will take some time for you two to decide after the getting to know each other in person part.I f you dont see anything about him that you pretty much could tell or knew about him already from your online relationship then it was a match made in heaven.
2007-03-12 10:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dulce/Candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not completely ruling it out but you shouldn't put so much emotion into it until you get to know him by being around him. he may not be what you want after you meet him. i'm not talking about looks i mean, habits...maybe he's not the kind of person you could live with.i think you should take your time. you could visit him regularly and see how things go. good luck
oh...make sure your friends know where you are going...this can be dangerous...how sure are you that he is really in the military?
2007-03-12 10:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both parties are willing to make the commitment, then yes. I fell for someone online too. I believed everything he said. However, he walked out of my life within the blink of an eye leaving me stranded with a broken heart.
2007-03-13 14:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a long term commitment until you meet him. If you really love him go up to Wisconsin to visit and then go home.
2007-03-12 10:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by blcria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋