well me and my ex gf broke up about two months ago, but i still think about and care for her. Im just not in love with her anymore and i told her that and i believe that hurt her, but our relationship was on thin ice as is. But i can remember one time when we broke up she told me she will always love me. We have not spoke in almost three months and im talking to other girls and i know she is talking to other guys. We were together for 3 years so she is kinda a part of me as i know i im to her. Neither one of us has call each other and her birthday is next week and im wondering as a friend should i call her and say happy birthday and possibly take her out because i really miss her and i cant hide what my heart is telling me even though in my mind i dont want to be with her because im no longer in love with her. What should i do?
2007-03-12 03:03:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Having someone break up with you and saying "we can still be friends" is like your dog dying and you mom saying "you can still keep it"
NO! she will try to get back and make a fool of herself... DO NOT unless you want that relationship again.
2007-03-12 03:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by curry_lover4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be fine to call to wish her a happy birthday. I'm not too sure I would take her out because that could cause mixed signals on her end. You are sure you don't want to be back with her but if she even remotely still wants to be with you, that would be a signal to her that you may want to get the relationship going again. So, I'd just call, tell her you were thinking about her since it was her birthday and wanted to say happy birthday. But, I'd let it go at that. If you do start talking and having conversation, tell her you'd like to be friends. (I think it's understandable after being together 3 years--but you just have to be sure she is at that point too). That way she knows for sure where everything stands and new thoughts aren't popping into her head and confusing her. I know my ex will call once in awhile still to see how I am and what's going on with me and we broke up 7 years ago. (We were together for 11 1/2 yrs).
2007-03-12 10:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a FRIEND? Um a friend stays in touch more often than every 3 months. You're officially nothing but an ex now. You don't have to even message her a birthday message but if you want to that's acceptable... but nothing more. Doing anything more will just be awkward and make you look needy and desperate and you're neither!
2007-03-12 10:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should DEFINITELY call her and say "happy birthday" and it won't mean that you wanna jump her bones again. i think, if you truly don't want to get back with her, you most likely just miss her company and what you two were like being friends.
but taking her out? think about that a lot more, because doing something with just the two of you will possibly bring back all sorts of feelings and emotions. if you think spending time with her won't bring all that back, then i suppose it's okay to ask her out. but lay it all out for her at first, and don't let her think it's something that it's not.
2007-03-12 10:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by funkyfreshradiofree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone. if you don't love her and don't want to be with her then why confuse the situation.
2007-03-12 10:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card and forget it.
2007-03-12 10:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋