Ok so there is this guy I have been talkin to for a few months now... And we talk every day and text eachother all the time... And I find myself really liking him a little more them I think I should be, and I dont know what to do... You see he lives a little over 600 miles away from me... I really would like to go see him and see if things could work out between us... The only thing is, is that there is this other girl that is going to see him this week and I find myself getting jealous over the fact that she is going to be there.... I know he likes her.... And I dont know how he feels about me... I think, how could he not like me even just a little... We talk all the time about everything.... Do I tell him how I feel or should I wait and see what happens when this other girl goes to see him??? Then tell him how I feel after she leaves??? What do I do???
2007-03-12 03:00:38 · 10 answers · asked by princesscrystal2382 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not his Girlfriend... Its just another girl who likes him...
2007-03-12 03:13:00 · update #1
You have to be honest with yourself first.....Would you be willing to relocate for this guy if things do workout?Secondly,he has to know you have an interest him.Maybe,he likes both of you!? Maybe he's looking for a second place if she blows him off.I don't know the guy,but I'm giving you the what ifs....I think " IF" you and he are GOOD friends this will work itself out in the end.Third,can you trust this guy?What is he really like? I believe you have to take the chance because
true love doesn't exactly happen everyday.It seems both of you obviously have things in common due to all the communication.What's the old saying??? It is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all....
2007-03-12 08:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jim J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
princess, i have a few questions for you.
how did you meet? i understand that he's 600 miles away, so how'd you get introduced? why's he so far away now? College, job, he was just visiting before?
why did he tell you that he was interested in this other girl? did you drag it out of him, or is it something he likes to talk about with you? it's normal enough that he might like the other girl AND you, but i think he'd want to hide the fact that he likes another girl if he's interested in you. Of course, he may have told you before he realized he was interested in you. There are a lot of variables. Just thinking out loud...
what are the prospects for your being closer? Typically, relocating for someone you've known a short time without any other reason for moving is tough. What happens if you've moved and the relationship fails? Where does that leave you? On the flip side, if you aren't nearby, how crazy are you going to be whenever he sees that other girl occasionally? I've only known a couple of people who've done the long distance thing and I understand that it's hard. You always find yourself wondering. But, it is sometimes successful.
These thoughts aside, I know it is hard to resist something you feel so strongly about. Only you know what's really going on. I think that if you don't tell him, you'll always regret that you didn't. If you do and it doesn't work out, you'll wish you hadn't - but to be realistic, you're saving yourself heartache down the road of dreams... I think you should probably just tell him and stop torturing yourself. At least then you'll know. I wouldn't relocate, though, unless you have no reason to stay where you are.
The cold, calculating person says, "It's not practical. Forget about it."
The real person knows that your not going to forget. So, unless there's a reason you suspect that you shouldn't, take action rather than sitting around stressed out.
2007-03-12 17:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by MikeG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a possibility of anything remotely able for anything to happen between the two of you, then by all means, say something to him. Just a simple discussion about where you see your relationship going and how to work with a long distance issue. If he is someone you fancy, then you need to ask yourself what's more important; for him to be happy, or for him to be with you? If you say his happiness then let the other girl go visit him and wait it out. He may be happier with her. If things don't work out there, then you will still have an opportunity.
The worst thing to do is get clingy and demanding of him. You still have a distance issue and you don't want to lose whatever friendship you already have. ;o)
2007-03-12 10:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..i think U better wait first. Oh im in a similar problem anyway, but my situation doesnt hv that other girl. However im confusing alot about a guy that i love/like..yah, so take care,coz i kno Love is really hurt.!
2007-03-12 10:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by sw33tstarqu33n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him know how you feel and find out if he just wants to be friends or take things further. Good luck
2007-03-12 10:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by miracle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart. You can tell him, but that might make things awkward. Is this his girlfriend that is going to visit? Whatever you decide to do you need to be honest with him and yourself. Good Luck.
2007-03-12 10:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him before she goes over there. You need to tell him sometime i told my boyfriend before we got together and he liked this other girl then he asked me out.
2007-03-12 10:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know before he gets invoved with the other girl because he may settle for the other girl even if he likes you because he doesnt know how you really feel
2007-03-13 18:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by Billy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dnt let ur chance go away baby go n tell him
2007-03-12 10:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you ask me i think you should tell him... i mean at least then you'd know. and then you wont be wondering what ifs
2007-03-12 10:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋