I have this lady friend who I love alot and who love me and she may move out of state. She's going through a divorce which may take awhile and she tells me that if she moves she will miss me. She's asked me to move there with her so we would be close to me so we would not have to have a long distance relationship. There are some things that she has asked me to do and I will not be able to do them and I feel if I don't she will back away. Should I take a chance and move with her hoping she will change her mind on the things that she would like for me to do or should I not go with her?
2007-03-12 02:50:17 · 8 answers · asked by rndyfindley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she wouldn't leave if she felt there was a future there
2007-03-12 02:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, u should get to know ur own heart for this lady. did u really love her so much or u juz feel happy with her being around u? if u really love her so much, then keep on going and do the best for ur relationship. but if u only feel crush on her, then i suggest u to reconsider before u move on with her. U should really-really know her well, what she feel for u? am afraid she only need u as a companion only, not more than that. and if she really love u i dont think she will ask too much from u specially if she knows u wont be able to do it. love is not demanding, love is suppose to be understanding. so, u better reconsider and think wisely before u move on. dont make a mistake that u know u will regret it someday. wish u the best.
2007-03-12 02:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think she is being selfish just by asking you to do things that you are obviosly not comfortable doing. To move away form your job friends and everything familiar is a risk as either your feelings or hers coud change in the months it takes for her divorce to be finalised. I almost get the impression she is emotionally blackmailing you because you say if you don't do these things she will back away - be very careful!!!!! She could be on the rebound and you are that guy....
2007-03-12 02:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how log you've known her.... take it slow. make sure u REALLY know her. and think about whether or not you'd like to live in that other state (WITH OR WITHOUT HER). that way if it doesnt work out.... you're still able to make a living and enjoy yourself out there! ;)
relationships are all about making mistakes....cuz eventually you'll come across someone that you never make a mistake with..... everything you do will be beautiful to them and vice-a -versa. ;)
if she loves u.... she will compromise and support you with anything. but if u dont express how u feel.... she wont know. so speak on it.... and give her the benefit of the doubt! ;)
2007-03-12 03:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kimber Gem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what makes you happy. You can not just move because she wants you to.
Ask yourself if you only stay friends will you regret having moved away?
Second could you be happy in that new place?
2007-03-12 02:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should just be open and tell her what you think. it is said that the best way in a relationship is to maintain COMMUNICATION. thats the only way to know her true feelings for you and if she really loves you, you are supposede to get to a good understainding. love is about unconditional compromise. you have to give on order to receive.
2007-03-12 03:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Briao 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont expect her to change --- if you truly care for her you love her warts and all --- those things she wants you to do --- discuss them with her --- there must be some room to negotiate
2007-03-12 02:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's according to the things you have to do.....
2007-03-12 02:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋