well im going through a rough break up. me and my ex decided we should jus end everything because we constantly argue over the littlest things and too much jealousy. we tryed to be friends after werds but all he does is assume things like im talkin to someone new blah blah. now he decided we should not talk at all anymore. our relationship lasted up to 11 months which was my longest ever . he is my first love so its kinda hard to let go. i jus need some advice and maybe a hug!!!
2007-03-12 02:43:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u'll get over him. i had a relationshi plike that we felt we need'd to be w/ each other all the time && the same as ur relationship...we end'd && try'd what ya'll did && we do not speak at all anymore. but u'll get over him...it will be had && it'll hurt but u will
2007-03-12 02:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by 18 weeks pregnant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that breakups are really hard but you can do it, you can let him ago. There is someone out there for you who you will be more compatible with. Love and a relationship shouldn't be so hard and when it is, then you two just weren't the right ones for each other. You will find someone else, but healing will take some time. Be good to yourself, take some time to relax and pamper yourself.
A book I read (called something like "It's called a breakup because it's broken) suggested doing 60 days of no contact with an ex. I did this and it really helped. No phone calls, no emails, no get-togethers. It gives you time away to get some peace of mind and to heal. After time you can decide if you really do want to be friends. Good luck.
2007-03-20 02:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by Emma E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with your ex boyfriend with all the jealousy that lead to arguments "cut like a knife" and got too painful to continue. Sometimes love is not enough. For love without trust can lead to devastation. I can understand how you must be hurting, but know that sooner or later the break up would have happened anyway. Best to happen now, than if it were to happen after being together for a longer time. You will see how in time you will begin to feel better. Just give yourself that time to heal. The love we experience and then lose can be used as a lesson learned so that in the future we are able to be more selective in whom we get involved with. Use this experience as something you learned by. I do wish I could take your pain away, but only time can. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-12 09:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off Mari- consider yourself hugged. Next, if the relationship has gotten to that point it is best to let go anyway. Jealousy is just a sign of insecurity and lack of trust. I know it is hard breaking up, but the old saying is -"If you love something set it free..." If the two of you are meant to be, it will work out. However, I think you can do better. No one needs to be in a relationship like that.
2007-03-20 06:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by revtimothyward 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok girl same thing with me i was with mine for 3 1/2 years and he was my first love we broke up about 3 months ago and he is always accusing me of talking to other guys but it doesnt matter ur not togther anymore u can talk to who ever u want to and i know u wanna be "just friends" but i honestly think u should stop talkin to him take some time to get over him then become friends with him it will be a lot easier me and my ex thought we wanted to be "just friends" but it doesnt work cause we both still care about eachother and we dont wanna see eachother talkin to other people but its gunna happen so i told him we cant talk anymore or at least until we are over eachother i care about him and his family a lot but its just gotta end i know its hard its still hard for me but im moving on i have a very nice guy in my life now were not serious but i like him a lot so u will get over it and just let him be he will get over it too i hope i helped and good luck!!!!
2007-03-19 19:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwe :), I know how that feels, ive had a really long relationship with a good for 3 years (first love also)
you will get over him, but you need to find somone you really like first.
its hard to not want him in your life because you and him probabley went through alot, so you dont like being alone, esp after being in a relationship that long, it only seems natural to be with him right? well you gottah let go sometime, so go out and meet new people, theres more people out there, and once you find one special he wont madder ne more, i know it sounds harsh but its true.
but if you guys do end up getting back together, i wish the best for you guys :)
2007-03-19 22:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by xox Rebekah xox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat the small stuff. Respect space and time when you're not with your mate. You find out alot about that special some1 when you're not together (how often they call, the little things they do/don't do, etc.) Keep prayer in the relationship. It does change things for the good
2007-03-12 09:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by DA ARTISTE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big hug to you gf he won't be the last one ya know it is hard when you break up anytime i lived with a man for over 9 yrs and he decided to go so i decided not to communicate with him ever again it took two years to let go for me but it was worth it
2007-03-20 08:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by wildirishrose19522000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweet heart it will be ok just think to your self if it is meant to be it maybe later or maybe not. I know having your first love is wonderful and fun but then when you loose him it is heart breaking and i am sorry for that you will find another one that you will love as much if not more you may not be live me but you will. good luck and i am very sorry
2007-03-20 02:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first ones are always to hardest to get over. but there will be better times to come, go rent a sad movie, be by yourself. this is just something you have to go through right now, drink your favorite drink and watch an old rerun of something you like. you have to go thru this to get to the next level.............
2007-03-20 08:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋