...especially when trying to rationalize why you've been dumped unexplainably by the same person so many times it hurts incredibly. I don't wanna think about this woman anymore. It's been quite mentally painful to say the least lately. I've been relinquished from a special woman's life interests for some inexplainable unknown reasons...and she ain't talking. I'm walking away now....but I'd like to have my heart and my own mental sanity back too. Am I being completely unreasonable for asking for some closure? YIKES!!! I just want some peace really...but unfortunately there's no calm in sight right now. Later maybe I'll be able to see how silly this was...but I'm absolutely NOT seeing it yet. It's only been 4 months since my departure was concieved verbally by my former lover. The "for sale" sign is up in her yard now. Closure for me is running away from me unexplainably again. Any ideas on getting her to unload some truths...or would this be to much for some to bare?
2007-03-12 02:25:26 · 1 answers · asked by scott s 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
sorry for your pain....If she is not going to talk, your only going to make more distress for yourself by trying to make it happen. Be available and ready of course but don't try to make her open up.
I'd suggest some calm and soothing music, perhaps online you can tap "soundscapes" or "new age"; I'd focus on something that is just music - no vocals -
listen to it quietly in a comfortable position. You've been able to articulate very well why you feel the way you do.... so no need to waste time on that discovery. Relax and move right away into your healing by focusing away from what your hopes were with her and what your life was with her & focus on what you need to do on your own. ... for instance sleep; meditate on calming your mind so that you can rest.
your in for a long haul based on what you wrote... take as big of steps as you can for your immediate needs like sleep and being able to function at your job & take baby steps over time to resolve the issue of closure.
: )
take care of yourself
2007-03-12 02:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by dharp66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋