my ex finaces family still talks to me. they tell me they want me and my ex to get back together...but im not the one that broke up with him. when i talk to his mom i ask her questions about him...is that wrong? they say we are still family but it doesnt feel that way all the time...bc it is her son...someone help me!
2007-03-12 02:09:49 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am still friends with my ex-husband's family and have been for 14 years since we divorced. His family and I saw no reason why we should break off ties as I didn't do anything wrong. He divorced me...that doesn't have anything to do with my relationship with the family. I think if it works for you go for it. You don't have to fit into some stereotype...like ex's don't get along with their partner's family....forget that.
2007-03-12 02:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may still be friends, there's nothing wrong with that.
However, that depends on your motives and you yourself can only answer that. If the guy was the one who broked up with you, he might not like the idea of you still getting along with any of his family members. He might also think that you're still after him and that you still want the both of you to be back to each other's arms.
I should know, I'd been there. The trouble is I can still get along well with his family but not with my ex-boyfriend. And please take note, it happened to me not only once but 3X. They surely like me a lot but they're not destined to become a part of my extended family.
Friendships anyway have no bounderies. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 09:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by NievaViena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its wrong to ask his mom question about him. u are putting her in the middle. so don't do that .That can be hard for her. Its okay to talk to his family. If she say that you all are still family than that mean there is still hope. A mother know her son. good luck . How are u to day ?
2007-03-12 09:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by lil mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a relationship was over, I would recommend not continuing to have connect with the family...I've got an ex boyfriend's mother who still emails me and it is weird. I now no longer respond to her messages because I feel like she's checking up on me, especially since I am now married.
2007-03-12 09:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you still keep in contact with his family. And asking about him is ok because well you guys were engaged. But if you don't feel comfortable then I would stop talking to them and tell them that you don't feel comfortable. Because the next thing you know they could be inviting you over to dinner and well he could be there. IT's really how you feel about it. If you fell comfortable then stay in touch but if not then end it now.
2007-03-12 09:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do at this point is to keep in touch occasionally.....send cards on holidays.....don't ask about the ex.
You can't move on if you're still hanging on to a part of his life.
2007-03-12 09:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will never feel the same but why should you not be friends with his family. Just remember that what you say will probably not stay between you he will know. and if they are true friends nothing will change let alone the feelings that you used to share with his family.
2007-03-12 09:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no reason for not keeping friends just because you two are no longer together. That's like saying that you can't be friends with his sister just because he broke up with you. It's ridiculous.
2007-03-12 10:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If he wanted to be with you, you would be together. Find other friends.
2007-03-12 10:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should keep your distance for a while, becuz if they are pushing a relationship that is not gonna happen, whats gonna happen when he hooks up with someone else, how are you gonna fit it. "oh yeah..hey, oh, how do i know him? Oh well i was just his fiancee' at one point." see what i mean?
2007-03-12 09:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by dall4wwf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋