how do you forget about someone you love?

Question

my last gf ended it just over a month ago! she said she didnt love me know more which came as a big shock. She also said that she had been feeling like she was gonig off my for a few months.

I know its rubbish though, we spent a night together and then within 24 hours she was like that. I dont know whether she met someone else or what, I also think her mates influenced her.

any how we met up a few times and she kept giving me false hope etc, she seemed like she was split whether to get back with me or not?

then hte final straw was she told me over the phone she didnt want to talk/see me again because i kept thinking we were getting back together.
how can someone be like that after 2 years?

well i was on my way to work yesterday and she was walking along the street. I was driving and we liked made eye contact but i dont know- its just brought my feelings back.

How can i stop thinking or her? I miss her so much and it kills to know she isnt even bothered. what do i do?

Answer 1

Its really hard to loose someone you love, someone you would do anything for, risk your life or drive across the country to see but sometimes it just has to end. Shes moved on, or maybe she hasnt. I think you deserve to know why she has changed. To me it sounds like she still has feelings for you but she doesnt want it to happen. Who knows why, I think you should respect her asking you not to communicate with her but I think you deserve to know why. Maybe you could email her or send her a letter to where she cant hear your voice or something so where it wont be as difficult on her.
I had to break up with my boyfriend once and I was still in love with him but I knew it had to end. I knew we werent compatible and it just was going to be a difficult relationship if we had stayed together. I know my friend who she was in love with her boyfriend but later she found out she had a std and she loved him to much to give it to him so she let him go. So who knows. I know its hard to hear and you dont want to hear it but you are going to have to move on. Its not going to be easy but its most likely killing you inside thinking about what could have been. You have to move on, start dating other girls or just be single for a while to clear your head. I hope this helps, I know it hurts.

Answer 2

i was exactly the same as you mate! My x called it off! Saying she had no feelings for me after 6 and a half years!(took a while for her to figure that out)! i loved the girl to bits, she never worked and i supported her. Then one day she had enough and off she went, i was gutted. Thinking i was going to be on my own and stuff! Well 4 months ago i met another woman, and now i am as happy as a pig in sh*t! And it has made me realise that i didnt care for my x as much as i thought, as i am happier now after 3 months with this girl than i was in all of the 6 years with my x! So my advise to you my friend would be, get out and about and find yourself another good lady, cause there are loads out there! Now i don't even want to see or speak to my x. By the way i dont know how old you are, but i am 30 so i know it is not some silly crush for me! Good luck man!

Answer 3

Hello JD, it is a pity for me to tell you that there is no way you could forget someone that you love no matter how hard you tried. However, you could limit your thought of her by avoiding indulging in anything that calls her to mind. In some other cases getting involved into another relationship could help but that is only if the new girl is much more better than the former one.
Nevertheless, i will really wish you call this girl, sit her down and talk things over with her. Make her to know how much important it is for you to know where you had gone wrong in the past with her, fine out if she has problem with spending the night with you? if there is anything that she would rather you do for her? as well as confessing of your undying love for her with promise to get better and make things better than before.
You made mention that her friends has influence on her; if you are sure of this then, it's about time you got involved with her best friend as a means to get back with your gf. Tell her friend of your desire to get back with her friend and see how things goes from there.
In a nut shell, i think you need to do thing for yourself before you go on with your quest to forget about her which is almost impossible. Therefore, whatever you decided to do, do please be gentle on yourself. Have a wonderful week ahead of you. Cheers!
PS: have you ever thought about marriage? do you love this girl enough to marry her after two years? if yes, why not give it a try hum? good luck and take care.

Answer 4

If she was your first love then i don't think anyone ever really gets over there first love. It will be hard for the first couple of months, but you just got to get on with it. Don't get back with her, shes finished it once she can do it again. Why not spend more time with your friends or take a holiday, you will start to feel better soon. Good luck and hope everything goes well for you

Answer 5

There's no way to 4 get about her. In time you will get over the situation but you won't forget her or stop loving her. You will still love her but not be in love with her. It's going to take bout 6 months to a year to truly get over her. It's easier said than done but it's life. After that year or so you may be able to hang around each other with out feeling interfering. Good Luck

Answer 6

just because she spent a night with u, does not mean that she was happy with everything.... she was probably trying to make sure in her own mind that the relationship was definitely over. i know u are hurting at the moment, and probably feel pretty angry about the whole situation, but the best thing u can do is try to get a social life that no longer revolves around your ex. keep yourself busy, try not to dwell on the reasons as to why she chose to split up with u - it won't do u any good. the fact is that she chose to end the relationship - for whatever reason, and there isn't a great deal that u can do about that. u need time to get over this - to grieve for the relationship. but i promise u , it does get better, and u will go on to find someone who makes u feel happy again.

Answer 7

Good question. Some girls are like that, they don't know what they want. The best way to forget her is to go out more often with your mates, do some exercise, listen to music (but please, don't listen to love songs or any song you both liked or dislike as this will keep reminding you of her. Listen to Iron Maiden or My Chemical Romance or any rock group). Don't do the things you used to do together.
Finally, find a new gf; someone who is completely different from her. When you see or meet her, do as if nothing has happened between you two. Believe me, she'll try to call you and be friends, girls like it a lot when guys care for them and when guys cry and feel as a 'good for nothing fella' because of them!

Answer 8

Although you miss her and love her so much, time will heal mate. You need to occupy yourself with other things in order to take your mind off her. Try to avoid all the areas you think she may be and try to get your life back on track. If she has led you on then she is bang outta order, but perhaps she was trying to decide what was best for her too. Stay strong and keep your chin up, you will eventually meet the right one for you and will then never turn back. GOOD LUCK XX

Answer 9

sorry mate but i think you know there is no quick fix. I realize is a platitude and you want solutions but 'we've all been there'.
Only last year my ex told me after two years together, that i wasn't going to convince her to give it another go. Sleepless nights, drinkin too much, all the classics, and it was so hard not to keep trying to attract her attention and read things into her reactions. In the end i moved out of town! That was perhaps a bit drastic but it definitely forced the issue and we are both better off because of it. You will find yourself thinking of her every time you run out of things to occupy your mind. You need to let time sort your head out. Remember, you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Its sad but she wasn't the one. Don't let yourself be sad, hang out with your mates, do stuff. I think you know all this already. Good luck chum, chin-up!!

Answer 10

aw sorry to hear that hun, if she went off you suddenly sounds like she has someone else and used all this as an excuse

she doesn't deserve you hun, it will take a while for you to get over her and you will, leave it a month or two and go out and enjoy yourself, have some time for you before you get back into a relationship


good luck