My boyfriend said that he didn't see a certain girl when he did. Why did he lie to me. I can't get over that he lied. Any advice.
2007-03-12 02:08:47 · 27 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a new one.
2007-03-12 02:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! U haven't mentioned whether he was seeing this girl before he met u or whilst beeing with u.
You should ask him why he lied to u and that his lie has hurt u very badly and broken the trust in him. Sorting this out now will save u a lot of pain of mind and help u to carry on your relationship. This could be just one event which should not influence your relationship as he may have wanted to avoid a confrontation. Leaving this lie aside, consider how your normal relationship with him works and whether you both are happy in this relationship. If so, then its worth it to address the problem now and get on with your relationship.
If on the other hand he has been cheating on u , then its a completely different story and u should not waste any time on him!
2007-03-12 03:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Scrappy(Asia) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still cant get over some things that my now husband did while we were dating. Guys can do things with out ever thinging about what can result. When you say see do you mean dated or hung out with. If he lied about dating i wouldnt take it to personally maybe he is embarassed of her or something bad happened. Just remind him that women are smart and the truth comes out so he shouldnt lie anymore. If he lied about just hanging out i would be a bit more supecious. Unless you blow things out of the water and maybe he wanted to advoid confrontation. Bottom line he shouldnt of lied, let him know there is now a break in your trust, as for learning to trust again. Its really hard, takes a long time no matter what bc a lie is a lie and they all hurt.
2007-03-12 02:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by breezy_er 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a bit weird, and usually if someone lies, there is a reason. I assume you are thinking he has feelings for her? That maybe could be the case, but it could also be that he knows you get jealous of her, and thought it would be easier to say he didn't see her, rather then deal with any drama that might ensue.
The best thing you can do now is talk to him. Tell him that it hurt you that he lied, and that honesty is important to you. For your part, tell him you won't overreact if he mentions he ran into her somewhere.
Of course, if he continues to lie about seeing her, then maybe the two of you have a serious problem, but odds are it is just a miscommunication.
2007-03-12 02:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by biogirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can except the fact that he lied to you and get over it because it was just a small lie and it could have been worse. My boyfriend lied to me and said that he would do anything for me but when I told him I didn't want to have sex with until we were married and he said no he couldn't do it. So you got it easy and I got over the fact that he lied to me after two days.
2007-03-12 02:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have solid evidence that he has lied then there is only you that can decide whether it is a big enough thing not to forgive or whether it is something that you could maybe get over by having a serious heart to heart. If you love your boyfriend and your relationship is strong enough to get over this then I would say go for it, however if you feel so strong about his lying and it is going to affect you and him then it is wiser to end it cos you will only hurt yourself more by keep throwing it up to him. GOOD LUCK CHICK X
2007-03-12 02:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jaksi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was trying to protect your feelings? You have to remember most men dont think things through to the end - they just deal with the here and now.
How about asking him why he lied and tell him that knowing the truth is better than coming to your own conclusions - and then let it go.
good luck
x
2007-03-12 03:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by 'seeing'?
Perhaps he was worried about your reaction?
It may be the 'meeting' was something he felt was 'risky' from his relationship point of view with you, but was something he felt he had a responsibility about due to history.
On the other hand he could be scheming you. If trust is an issue and you feel insecure because of his actions you should try to discuss this with him(don't 'tell' him discuss)
He is likely to be defencive but if this continues then you have to talk it trough or walk away.
No half way houses with trust, it is either there or it isn't.
2007-03-12 02:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by noeusuperstate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he did wrong lying to you, maybe he lied to you because he was trying to protect you from the truth and not hurt you. but then agian he lied... you need to sit down and ask him why he lied to you???? who is this girl to him?? was it just a girl mate who you dont like?? you also need to think if he has ever lied to you before if so then wake up... hope it works out either way xabix
2007-03-12 02:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advise is don't get mixed up with someone who you know is lying to you. You will spend the rest of your relationship paranoid, angry or depressed. You can't just rely on the occasional good times when you know in your gut that when their out of your sight they cant be trusted. There are really cool people out there, find one!!
2007-03-12 02:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by UreFriendlyServant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend lied to me years ago about never cheating on a ex but l later found he did and was in still in contact with the girl he did it with (his sisters friend) . after loads of arguing and me screaming he said it was because he didnt want me to think he'd cheat on me or think bad of him. anyway we've put it behind us and now we are married with 2 kids, so maybe he just didnt want to cause a row, but that depends on what you think went on. good luck
2007-03-12 02:17:18 · answer #11 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋