I just want to get some input on putting little cards that say "the bride and groom are registered at..." inside our invitation "packets". I've heard not to do this because it can look like we're soliciting gifts, but also that it makes things easier on our guests who are family and friends and most likely want to get us stuff we need and will use without having to call around to figure out where to go. Any one have experience with this?
2007-03-12 01:27:33 · 12 answers · asked by barnaclesally 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, not in your wedding invitations. Did you or are you going to have a shower? Thats where your resistry info goes.
The theory is that your wedding is a party you are hosting for yourselves, its never ok to ask for gifts for yourself, your shower is a party that someone throws FOR you, thus its ok to include gift information.
Even though it will make it easier for your guests, its still not good to breach this particular code of good manners. Honestly, people do not look kindly on some things no matter what year this is. Regsitry information is one of those things that never really progresses with the times. If you even offend one person by doing this, it isnt worth it, believe me.
Tell your mom, his mom, and your bridesmaids, if people want to know about a registry they will ask or they will give you money so you can buy your own stuff. Have good manners and dont add those little cards that they stores give you (BTW, do you think the stores really care about good manners? No, they care about people shopping there for you and their bottom line. of course they tell you to put those cards in your envelopes) or any other registry information.
2007-03-12 02:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just don't, it really looks like you are expecting gifts, and while you are gonna get them either way, its very rude to specify preferences especially with wedding invites. Gifts are a nice perk not a right of the couple and to put that in there will make it look like you can't grasp that concept. People have the right to go wherever they want and get you whatever they want, while you may get some hideous things, thats just part of it and a million other brides are dealing with the same thing so you have to deal wiht it too! The wedding invite is to ask people to celebrate with you not to indicate gift preferences....Most people don't mind callin or askin around, its not that big a deal. Save yourself the time and energy stuffing the little cards with the invites and skip it, I really do think you will come out better!
also, if a person can't figure out where you are at, they tend to just send money, which is always good, and I know cuz I have a lot of distant family on my list and my wedding is in 12 days and I have been getting checks in the mail almost everyday for the past month so its kinda to your benefit not to mention it!
2007-03-12 03:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not okay. It does look like you are soliciting gifts. Most of your guests will know enough to ask your mother, mother-in-law, bridal party, you, etc. for advice on where you are registered. Your invitation should be just that - an invitation saying when and where the wedding will be. Not where your guests can buy you a gift.
2007-03-12 02:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one...
Wedding etiquette says 'NO WAY' to this, but there are many people who do it. Personally, I let my close friends and family spread the word about where I'm registered rather than putting into my invitations, simply because I think it will take away from the classy look of the invitations.
But that's just my opinion...
2007-03-12 01:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by emay02 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you tell the right people in your friends circle, and family circle it will get around and you already know who those people are. Me and my wife went through this, so we told her sister and best friend and within a week everyone knew. It kinda of sneaky I guess but at the same time it doesn't put you out there for people who may not be able to afford a gift. if you put it in the invitation its like saying only come if you get us a gift from so-and-so!
2007-03-12 01:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by shocker83_fear_me23 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's in extremely poor taste to do so on a wedding invitation.
So please, don't come across as greedy and rude by putting Walmart slips on your expensive invitations! That is tacky to say the least.
The proper way to do it is to annouce it at the bridal shower, to put it on your website (if any), and for you to tell your guests when asked. They will ask you the closer it gets to the wedding date. This information should be pass on by word of mouth by your bridal party, your family and your in-laws.
Congratulations and good luck
2007-03-12 02:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it would be alright if the tradition is to give wedding gifts. I understand that in some parts of the U.S., the tradition is to give wedding gifts. Back east where I come from MONEY is the thing so no registry card is ever enclosed. We all give money.
2007-03-12 16:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never ever put gift information of any kind on a wedding invitation....very impolite and tacky.
2007-03-12 05:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT!
It does look like you are soliciting gifts...just because walmart says its ok doesnt make it so. Get your registry information out by word of mouth.
2007-03-12 01:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't include it. If someone really has trouble figuring out a gift to choose, they would contact your family.
2007-03-12 04:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋