my bf and i have been dating for 9 months. on sat i was going to check my hotmail emails when i went to the site it automaticially logged my bf in i read some of his emails and the lady was saying she misses him ans huggs and kisses when i read that i got up and left i was mad and heartbroken i thought was the only one. since then he has came by my house to try to work things out do you think i was over reacting or am i being played.
2007-03-12 01:15:19 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only you can answer that but you'd better sit down and have a serious talk and figure it out...good luck
2007-03-12 01:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see you said that you found out about a lady right. Maybe she was just a friend or a distant cousin or a jealous lover(a previous gf). When in a relationship we sometimes tend to take things the wrong way( sometimes our instincts are correct as well). Try to find out about him, maybe he is not the person you thought he'd be and then decide whether you are being played or not. And you may be overreacting a bit too. Talk to him, listen to him. Sometimes talking solves everything. It's better to clear things out before it's too late. And apologize for asking him the question or not having faith in him at that moment otherwise if it wasn't what you had thought it may even cost you a bf once again.
2007-03-12 01:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by rhyme2rbr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Main thing is dont jump in to conclusions right away. You have to tell him what you saw and how you feel after that. Be free to open up your true feelings. To get him to talk about this matter, first you have to tell him that you want to talk abt a very important issue with him and tell him a specific time that you want to talk. That way you will get his fullest attention (male psycology).
After that ask him to give explanation for what you saw. Anyway, even if he is guilty he will say that its an ex or something. If so ask him to call her in front of you and tell not to send any more mails.
If all goes well, make sure that he doesnt receive anymore mails from that girl (get his pass word).
All the best to you!!!!
2007-03-12 02:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being played, but just for all fairness next time he comes over ask him to log in and you check his email, contacts. If he gets mad and says he shouldn't have to, well then you're being played and move on! Without trust there can be no love!
2007-03-12 01:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by shocker83_fear_me23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over reacting a little bit because you didn't see any messages from him saying he misses her and did you even see any messages from him to her. You don't want to ruin a good thing just because of some stupid girl that's sending him these type of messages and you should trust that he would never do anything to hurt you.
2007-03-12 02:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is sit him down and be serious with him about what you saw. Ask him what that was, but appoligize for going through his stuff (cause he could use it against you). Then ask who it was.. for all you know, it could be some old lady, or grandma or something... right?? haha
Try not to overreact, and be calm through the whole thing... i really hope everything works between you!!!
Good Luck, Hun!
2007-03-12 01:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting played. Just be glad you found out about this now. Tell him you deserve better than that and then move on. I know it's easier said than done but it will save you heartache in the future if you leave now.
2007-03-12 01:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont jump to conclusions it could be an ex of his, tell him what you saw, and no other girl then you can say to him how they miss to hug and kiss him. so that e-mail might be dated or his being with someone.
2007-03-12 01:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know that it is another girl? did it say that in the email? did HE say that? could it be a really close aunt or sister? grandmother? find out about that
2007-03-12 01:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it wasn't his mother, otherwise you'd better get ready for six months of sore knees and lockjaw.
2007-03-12 01:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋