what do i do as a parent when a teacher hits my child?

Question

my daughters study in chinmaya vidyalaya in virugambakkam. they and other children are hit by teachers. when we try to complain to the principal, she is always unavailable. as a mother what should i do.

Answer 1

EPOCH is a new national organization which aims to end physical punishment of children by parents and other carers. Now that hitting has been almost eliminated in schools and child care institutions, it is time to end it in the home as well.

EPOCH hopes to achieve its aim through public education, research and legal reforms. EPOCH wants to see changes in attitudes to children; to see children recognized as people - and recognition that it is as wrong to hurt a child as it is to hurt another adult. Far from having a right or even a duty to hit children, parents have a right to information about non-violent ways of bringing up their children, and a duty to discipline them with their heads and hearts rather than with their hands or implements. EPOCH will work with and for parents and other organization to promote non-violent, positive methods of bringing up children.

The law protects the rest of us from violence at the hands of anyone else. Why shouldn't it protect children too?

EPOCH believes that ending physical punishment will have many positive effects:
* children can only achieve their full potential when they are recognized as individual people with rights of their own;

* the current acceptance of physical punishment helps to cause more serious child abuse;

* even `light' physical punishment can unintentionally cause significant injuries to small children;

* children who are hit by their parents learn that violent solutions are acceptable and are more likely in turn to hit their own children. Violence breeds violence.

What's so wrong with hitting children?
Better to ask "what's right about it?" Everybody agrees it is morally wrong to settle arguments between adult people with blows. But children are people too. Why should they of all people lack equal protection from all forms of violence - particularly when they are among the most vulnerable physically?
Physical punishments are not only morally wrong, they don't work either. A whack on the bottom may stop children for that moment. But it won't stop them doing the same thing later on because being hit does not teach them anything useful. It doesn't teach them how you want them to behave, and it doesn't teach them to try to please you. Research evidence shows that children who have been slapped or hit are usually so overwhelmed with anger and hurt feelings that they cannot remember what they were punished for

Answer 2

I have searched Chinmaya Vidyalaya and also Virugambakkam.
This is found to be in India in the south.

In this country, the protection from abuse is dyerbolical.
If you can speak English, then I would assume you can travel or live in such countries.
I would consider taking your girl out of India to an English speaking country that has lawas against this treatment.

I do not know if the authorities would arrest the teacher, or what can be done.
You should try seeing authorities above the teachers and head-teachers.

If not, there is no other option as a last resort, to force the teacher to stop your self.
i.e. For self defence or the defence of your little girl, threaten the teacher in some way, but ensure that you do not get found out!

It also worth considering a different school, but this could just result in the same problems.

Answer 3

I need more facts, I'll explain. Is the teacher abusing your child for no reason or is your child behaving badly all the time? I attended my first 2 years of school in Romania where at that time punishment from the teacher was common if you did something bad. Finishing school here in the US kids were very disrespectful to their teacher, mouthing off, cursing and even hitting. So how does that teach a child to respect other people especially their senior. Don't get me wrong, the parents should teach a child respect before they even get to school but as we all know that doesn't always happen.

So my answer is find out more detail, if the teacher is abusing your child go further then the principal, keep going till your reach the highest person in charge but if your child is bad maybe you need to something about that.

Answer 4

If the principal is always unavailable go to the education board and make sure that you have proof, this is a blantant disregard for the rules of being a teacher and any teacher that hits a child needs to be sacked. If there are other children being hit by the teacher get their parents involved also, power in numbers.

Answer 5

Either...

1. Take your child out of the school. However you pronounce it...

2. If corporal punishment is legal in the school, you should have thought about that before sending them to the school.

3. If they send home notes (like they do here asking permission to spank your child) sign the freaking note "no".

4. Sadly, complaining about it to the principal isn't going to really work because it's your word against the teacher's. Unless the teacher left a bruise, you don't have anything. I know it sucks. But that's the way it is. Principals will only respond to proof, and that's if they even care at all.

Answer 6

I have found that in India theres mixed feelings about physical disclipline at schools. Some schools and even parents feel that teacher have the right to hit kids under the guise of disciplining them. The overcrowding in the education system means that teachers are more valued than the students, Hence your principal probably reluctant to let go of the teacher, in case another qualified one is hard to find. As in the rest of the world, teachers are usually underpaid and really under tremendous pressure- the classrooms sometimes have 70 kids stuffed into them. So while its not acceptable, it is understandable that the teacher would resort to the easiest means to controll the class.
But the issue is that it is legally banned in India to physically discipline the child. And how strongly do you feel about it? At a pinch are you willing to take your children out of the school? So you can and should gather the parents and go to the police, keeping in mind that at worst your kids might be asked to leave the school.

Answer 7

If my new child replaced into hit by way of a instructor decrease than any situations, seen bruises or no longer, i might press costs and make it very puzzling for that instructor to artwork around childrens back. Pathetic reason or no longer, we deliver our young infants to college with the thought the teachers will attempt to maintain them secure. Paddling and corporal punishment, etc. replaced into removed from the generic public of colleges a protracted time in the past. and that they only have been allowed to apply it with the mothers and fathers' permission.

Answer 8

With draw your child from the school and file a lawsuit. This principal is not stepping up to the plate. She's letting this teacher get by with things she shouldn't.

Answer 9

Go over their head go to the superintendent,then if he or she doesn't do anything go to the school board,if that doesn't work take it to the board of education! if nothing happens then tell them you are going to get a lawyer!It's up to you and they don't want anyone to be able to correct their own children at home then when they get old enough to go to school they call them brats and hit them there.

Answer 10

Report the teacher to the board of education and police! Go down there and talk to the teacher and tell her or him that she or he is NEVER to TOUCH your child again or they will be JAILED!