i was born with cerebal palsy and have been living with it for 28 years. it affects my left arm and both my legs. i walk with a little more than a limp but refuse to go on a wheel chair for now. i get around. i am a confident spastic to society. i am in my point of life where i would like to find a long term relationship and perhaps start a family. i am independant and work for myself. i value intelligence in women, everything else is a bonus. i have tried libraries, church, cafe, friends homes and meet girls who offer attention, conversation, phone numbers, email address but i'm having it hard to go any further. i feel i am getting old and am looking to be settled by the time im 30, which is perhaps only putting myself with pressure which makes me act without patience.
2007-03-12 00:34:57 · 7 answers · asked by ben j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you may be giving yourself a little too much pressure. I know it's hard...we all tend to want things with a timeframe. I have learned though that sometimes you just can't plan for some things in life...and relationships are one of those things. I believe that when the time is right, you will meet the right one. I've been in relationships where I thought it would be forever, but years later to find out that it's not. I know how you feel, meeting nice people is hard nowadays, but have a little patience. I think maybe it's still a time where you should enjoy being single and happy. Take the time to still learn about yourself, like what and who you want in your life. Don't worry, in due time the right one will cross your path and you will look back and realize that the added stress wasn't necessary. Goodluck!
2007-03-12 00:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion. I think you are being a little too impatient here. You say "I am having a hard time to go any farther" In any of these contacts, do you get to know the person? Or is there just no spark up front. Maybe you should just look for some friendship and maybe things will develop. Sounds like you are looking/expecting too much up front--like "her" to come up and hit you over the head with a ball bat. May not happen like that. True love takes time, respect, like, friendship, admiration, compatibility, patience, and lots more. Don't make quick decisions on those you meet. Also, I do not think you will find the "perfect" one. You need to expect some flaws. No woman is perfect. lol
Good luck
2007-03-12 01:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be worth your while to get a mail-order bride from some third world country.
Probably as intelligent as any women you're likely to meet locally, but with the added bonus that they are more likely to be respectful and attentive to your needs.
2007-03-12 00:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice it just be yourself. Eventually, a compatible woman will appear when you least expect it.
Don't put a time limit on settling down. When people do this, they tend to do just that: settle. Even if it takes another decade, which it probably won't, it's better to wait for the one who you truly feel a connection with rather than the first one to come along. Good luck. :)
2007-03-12 00:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it paitence you have it and you forgot now be paitent let that go and just enjoy life. Sounds like you have some big obstacles with your phisical being dont worry thats not what a woman cares about most ...most women want someone who is mentally strong and physically passive.
2007-03-12 01:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GEE DO NOT WORRY SO MUCH...THE LORD WILL SEND THE RIGHT ONE TO U IN DUE TIME TC
2007-03-12 00:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you will have to wait for the right woman dont be discourage, please dont pressure yourself instead wait for the right time and be patience.
2007-03-12 00:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋