i know this girl from work. We kept bumping into one another, and i seemed to make her laugh, play with her hair etc, so i asked her out!, she said yes and we had a great time. However on the night she mentioned that she had recently broken up with her chap and she wasnt redy to get into a relationship just yet. I was a bit disappointed but i was sure she should have told me that before we went out! Anywhoo, we txtd a bit after that but i'd pretty much put it down to experience and we cld b friends. The thing is, i became sure she had got bak with he ex after we kinda stopped txting for a while. In fact i saw her hand in hand with a guy, but this was cool since i figured that wld happen and besides, i'd been with someone else since. The thing is, over the last couple of weeks she has increasingly been making an effort to be around me at work and wants to go out again nxt wk. We really get on well and i wld like 2 see where things go, but is she being carefull or incredibly selfish?!
2007-03-12 00:01:57 · 21 answers · asked by UreFriendlyServant 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would go out with her again as a lot of relationships start with friendship and she clearly likes you whatever the capacity of the relationship, maybe she is finding it hard to let go of her ex and at least she was honest that she was not ready for more so be her friend if you like her that much but dont put your life on hold for her and carry on dating if friendship is all she is after at the moment. She may only ever want friendship but who knows, dont give up but dont be used either good luck with it you seem like a really nice guy and whoever you end up with will be very lucky. emma
2007-03-12 00:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you should not date people you work with. I am giving you this advise from personal experience. If things don't work out there could be a lot of problems afterward, and bad things may happen. Do yourself a favor and just stay friends with her unless one of you quits then maybe try again. There are many girls out there find one who is single and is not emotionally all screwed up she might just be using you until she knows whats going on in her past relationship. Don't get involved!
2007-03-12 07:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jason S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women and relationships - their heads get screwed up quite a lot! Hence the danger of going with someone else just on the rebound to make sure that she is still attractive to the opposite sex.
She could just see you as a mate (same as they guy you seen her holding hands with), I know its difficult for met to be "friends" with women - its next to impossible :-)
If its been a while since she broke up, give it another go, if it doesn't work out well at least you know you tried and its not to be.
PS you writre like you are on your mobile phone, they are really bad for making people spell badly and abbreviate words!
2007-03-12 07:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by arealhighlander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must stay away from the friends zone, that is the quickest way for you to lose any chances with other girls! she will give you just enough attention to make you think that she is interested while at the same time going out with other guys yet still giving you hope that you might have a chance with her.
the short version is that she is playing you! be smart friend and tell her to take a hike.
2007-03-12 07:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by matt mcd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when I was separated with my husband. I was scared that if I were to go out with another guy it would be the same kind of thing but eventually I wasn't scared anymore because I knew that most relationships don't go the same way. So I say don't give up yet. be patient with her. give it some time.
2007-03-12 07:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah C. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance, go out for a meal and some drinks and talk things over, if she only wants to be friends then so be it if she really does want to take things slowly then at least you know what is going on.
2007-03-12 07:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when you break up with someone you've been with a while its hard to just let go, and occasionally he/she may end up trying to make it work again, but usually this doesnt work.
she obviously likes you, i dont know how much. so, accept her offer of a date, but dont get hopes up yet. when out, be yourself, act like you normally do. but also, ask her what her feelings are for you, as you would like to have a level playing field with her, as you respect her andhope she respects you. tell her if she only wants to be just friends/bed friends/proper dating, then she needs to tell you so you both know where you stand.
if she thinks she'd like to date you properly, then great, have fun, dont fall in love too quickly, just take things as they come , go with the flow as they say.
give her a 2nd chance, find out where you both stand, and go from there.
good luck!
2007-03-12 07:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. Finishing a relationship and starting a new one is not easy.
Continue going out as friends for a will. She who she is, and then check if you can make the move.
Just give her same time.
2007-03-12 07:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by iona 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is testing the water, as it were. To see if you are decent 'boyfriend' material, before she makes the final break with her current beau.
If she is not doing this, she is messing with your head and is just lapping up the attention.
Ask her. She may be playing you for right mug!
2007-03-12 07:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes still hung up on her guy, is confused and doesnt know what she wants. could be that she does really like you but got scared off by the feelings that its too soon. go out with her again and see what happens, you got nothing to lose!
2007-03-12 07:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋