I was in a relationship with this guy. Everything was great (or only seemed so to me) until one night all of a sudden he just called and said it was over, like "it's not you, it's me, i'm not right for you"..he was crying. I don't understand why he couldn't talk to me about that in person?
We still talk and sometimes he says he misses me and even says he loves me and that hurts so at times i think i should just stop talking to him and move on. I do love him, but i can't understand what he wants. If it's being friends then why does he say those things or go quiet at all? Does everything good really come to an end? Any advise?
2007-03-11 23:39:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't call or text him....and consider not answering when he calls. It will be hard, but it may be the only way for him to work out what he wants. If he thinks he has lost you...or is losing you (by you not answering his calls) then you may see some action. Don't be a doormat for him or put your life on hold for someone who can't make their mind up.
2007-03-11 23:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by bundy_bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are users. I hate to make you feel any worse but it sounds like you might have found one here ( a user).
Anyone who really wants to make a clean break will do so with no reservations unless they feel sorry for you. I'm sure that you don't want this guy's pity. You love him but it isn't his pity you seek, it's his love in return.
Doesn't sound to me like you're going to get that with him telling you conflicting things to keep you hanging on.
You deserve better than that and likely have allowed yourself to believe that this is the best you can do or that you'll never get over him........You WILL get over him though it may take a while.
In the meantime, do something nice for yourself. Give yourself some of the things that make you happy and when you're truly happy you will see much more clearly the truth as it really is and not as you wish it were.
So, yes, stop accepting the calls, emails or chats in any way until you can determine what exactly it is that this guy wants from you. Sounds to me like you've already given your all. What more could he ask of you.
2007-03-12 06:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is treating you like a rag doll he can pick up and put down whenever he feels like it. Tell him to decide what he wants or you are moving on. If he is all freaked out emotionally then he isn't ready for a meaningful and mature relationship and you don't deserve to deal with that. Do not buy into the drama. He is not considering your feelings in this in the way he broke up and has consequently treated you.
Unfortunatly this happens. Sometimes we don't get the closure and answers we seek. He may not even know what is problem is, and my advice is to not try and fix him. He needs to fix himself.
2007-03-12 06:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Meg D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him about it face to face. Ask him what was the turning point that made him say what he said. If he isnt willing to talk about it then its safe to say that he just wants to string you along. If you feel that ending all contact with him is best for you then go for it. In life we should satusfy ourselves and do whats best for us. Sounds selfish but its true.
2007-03-12 06:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋